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   On 01 Nov 2021, Ubiquitous  posted some   
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   > Kamala Harris was registered on there, "Will Suck For Government Job"   
   > anytime anywhere.   
      
   Ashley Madison's 2015 data leak offered evidence that all types of   
   people cheat for various reasons.   
      
   Immediately after the leak, those cheaters were harassed, blackmailed,   
   and fired from work. Some committed suicide.   
      
   In the years since, relationship experts and the mainstream have taken a   
   more nuanced look at infidelity.   
      
   Cheaters are everywhere.   
      
   That's an obvious truth in today's internet-absorbed and hyper-connected   
   world. But if it wasn't for Ashley Madison's massive 2015 data leak,   
   during which the private information — including nude photos in some   
   cases — of an estimated 32 million users was released online for anyone   
   to access, we may not have realized just how many cheaters may really be   
   among us.   
      
   When Ashley Madison launched in 2001, the site was a pioneer for   
   discreet yet judgment-free cheating via the internet. And people hated   
   it. To the critics, the site was helping unfaithful spouses who, by   
   mainstream standards, were considered inherently bad people who could   
   never justify their behavior. Cheaters deserved to be hated, and that   
   was that.   
      
   Despite the critiques, the site said it kept growing, bringing in new   
   members each year. And in 2015, when hackers released the names,   
   addresses, and intimate photographs of enough Ashley Madison users to   
   completely populate the state of Texas, we had solid proof that all   
   kinds of people, including politicians, mothers, and reality stars known   
   for being devout Christians, are cheaters.   
      
   Hulu's new three-part docuseries "The Ashley Madison Affair," which   
   premiered July 7, recounts the infamous website's rise to international   
   recognition, its 2015 data leak, and the aftermath of those impacted.   
   Unfaithful spouses' personal information and nudes were leaked for the   
   world to see. They were given no privacy and no basic human respect, and   
   many lost their jobs, families, and even lives because their affairs   
   were made public.   
      
   But the site never stopped running and its executives now purport to   
   have 75 million global members. Though unintentional, Ashley Madison's   
   massive security flop forced us to reconsider the cheater stereotype and   
   wonder if pervasive cheating signaled a deeper problem with how we view   
   marriage, monogamy, desire, and honesty as a culture.   
      
   At the time, people felt justified in humiliating leaked Ashley Madison   
   cheaters An estimated 23% of American men and 12% of American women say   
   they've cheated, according to the General Social Survey's latest data.   
   And that's only the people who've admitted to it.   
      
   Clearly, monogamous marriages aren't working for everyone.   
      
   When certain Ashley Madison members were exposed, the damage of their   
   decisions to put their monogamous marriages on the line became evident.   
   They suffered some big losses — their jobs, their marriages, and even   
   their lives, with at least five known members, including a pastor,   
   committing suicide in the months that followed the leak. Others were   
   excommunicated from their small communities when their local churches   
   distributed their leaked nudes, as Hulu's series recounts.   
      
   When the fallout happened, bystanders debated whether the cheaters   
   deserved it as penance for their deceptive and damaging behavior.   
      
   But if the leak happened today, it's hard to imagine it'd have the same   
   deep and far-reaching impact for the cheaters involved.   
      
   Sexual monogamy is losing its chokehold on American society   
      
   Two years after the leak, renowned therapist Esther Perel released her   
   book "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" to explain the   
   complexity of cheaters' motivations. It became a New York Times best   
   seller and inspired a 2017 story in The New Yorker called "In Defense of   
   Adulterers."   
      
   That same year, therapist Talal Alsaleem published a book outlining a   
   course he created to help cheaters save their marriages, instead of   
   turning them away to deal with the aftermath of their mistake alone.   
      
   In the mainstream, conversations about adulterers appear to be more   
   nuanced, with more stories about why affairs happen and how to prevent   
      
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