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|    Re: I Am A Huge Slut    |
|    25 Jul 23 06:33:59    |
      From: jondyoungsaddictioncounselor@gmail.com              On Tuesday, July 25, 2023 at 8:27:32 AM UTC-4, LC wrote:       > On Tuesday, July 25, 2023 at 12:56:23 AM UTC-4, Nazi nutjob "D. Ray" put       on his dress as Carolyn Jean Swikard Berg and wrote:        > > I Am A Huge Slut        > >        > >        > > Recently, I participated, in a willing, great hook-up. The week before        > > I participated in a willing make-out session. I just moved to a new        > > town. I don't know anyone around here that well, and the unfortunate        > > thing about that is that I don't know who knows who -- for instance        > > how close hook-up A is to hook-up B. This is where my story really        > > starts.        > >        > > Let's call the two guys I've hooked up with Boy A and Boy B. Boy A had        > > a crush on me. Since I had only known him for about a week, I assumed        > > it was casual. I was wrong. At some point during our short time        > > together, he decided we were in a relationship. Now, we're talking        > > about a guy that I've probably seen four times in my life and who I        > > never told I was interested in being in a relationship. This is where        > > Boy B steps in.        > >        > > I had met Boy B the week before and found him attractive. The next        > > week I saw him at a party and we began talking about Lord of The        > > Rings, Zombies and Star Wars. Clearly, I was interested. One thing led        > > to another and we hooked up. The next day I texted Boy A and he        > > responded by saying (and I quote): "I heard Boy B jack-hammered your        > > crotch last night厃ikes."        > >        > > Despite his triggering, offensive, misogynistic language, I responded.        > > I told him that it was unfair of him to assume that there was        > > something solid between us. I told him not to deny my sexuality and        > > not to hold me to double standards. What he said back was this: "Stop        > > bothering me you dumb whore." I decided to just say nothing, to not        > > give him the satisfaction of knowing just how much his texts had        > > gotten to me. But I was so upset and angry. I felt disgusting, like a        > > pile of trash, and I know that's what he wanted me to feel like.        > >        > > I have my theories why I felt this way. It has been a little over a        > > year since I was pinned down and raped in my own bed. The        > > "Jack-hammered your crotch" comment just sounded so violent, so rapey,        > > that every time I think about it I am disgusted. My stomach literally        > > clenches and I feel sick. The term whore made me feel low, like maybe        > > I'm wrong for liking sex as much as men, maybe I am worthless, maybe I        > > should be used for sex, maybe that's all I'm good for. For the first        > > time, I understood how much it hurts to be called a whore or a slut or        > > a skank - whatever the term may be - or to have you sexuality        > > questioned. Even after attending Slut Walks, being an active feminist,        > > knowing about rape culture and understanding the effects of        > > slut-shaming, I lost myself in the idea that maybe being a slut was a        > > bad thing, that maybe I had been wrong all along. My entire belief        > > structure had come into question because of one jerk.        > >        > > Then I remembered the day I lost my virginity. The day I had sex for        > > the first time, it was not to a guy who was my boyfriend. Some of you        > > may call that slutty, but I knew that I wanted to have sex. At that        > > moment, there was nothing more that I wanted, and when it happened, I        > > regretted nothing. But I also remember thinking that no one would        > > understand, that if I told, I'd be called a whore and a liar. And        > > there was that word again: whore. The word that people use to control        > > our sexuality, to dismiss us from sexual pleasure, to dismiss our        > > claims of sexual assault, to dismiss our humanity.        > >        > > We live in a country where tens of thousands of sexual assault cases        > > are reported every year. And who really knows how many go unreported.        > > I think this all goes back to the word "whore," to the idea that women        > > do not have sex for ourselves but for male attention, because we have        > > low self esteem, because we have daddy issues, because we want to be        > > popular, or because we're just plain crazy.        > >        > > It starts in our first health class. We learn that boys masturbate        > > more than girls (or is it just that boys talk about it more because it        > > is considered more socially acceptable for them to pleasure        > > themselves?) In our high school health classes, we are told that the        > > only way to be safe is to remain abstinent, that if we wait until        > > marriage, sex will be so much better. We are taught about blow jobs,        > > but the blessing that is cunnilingus is never mentioned. We learn        > > about male ejaculation, not about female. Every day we are shown how        > > cool Robert Downey Jr. is for remaining a swinger throughout his        > > career, and on the same channel told that Miley Cyrus looks like a        > > slut in her video.        > >        > > As a gender we have been dismissed. Slut is not our word. It is the        > > word of our oppressors. It is a word they use because the idea of        > > female sexuality does not fit their conservative view points. But I'm        > > going to fight that now. I'm going to say:        > >        > > Dear Guy A, I love sex. I choose to love sex. I choose to have sex        > > with whomever I want. I am great in bed and I am proud of that. I look        > > amazing naked and yeah that makes me feel really confident and sexy.        > > Sex is my choice. So if liking sex, and liking frequent sex, and        > > liking experimenting with new partners makes me a slut in your mind,        > > then so be it. I am a huge slut. And there is nothing wrong with that.       > Hey jdyoung, you broke the bot!        > LOL!              This insane tool was broke long before I came across him (her?).       Being a paedo in prison will do that to a guy.       ROFL!              jdyoung, Official       jdy...@gmail.com       www.splc.org              --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05        * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)    |
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