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   "Alan Williams"  wrote in message   
   news:458ca1bf$0$32030$fa0fcedb@news.zen.co.uk...   
   > Duke wrote:   
   >> Magda wrote:   
   >>> Whatever.   
   >>   
   >> It's not "whatever" when kids massacre people and it could have been   
   >> avoided completely.Good Lord, what's wrong with you?   
   >>   
   >>   
   >>> What she is doing is indecent. How would you feel if someone did it to   
   >>> you??   
   >>   
   >> If I were 13 I would be upset and pissed off and embarrassed but I'd   
   >> have to learn to deal with it, wouldn't I? And I would think twice   
   >> about doing something I really shouldn't if I thought my mother was   
   >> going to find out about it pretty easily. And I'd try to find ways   
   >> around it. Like any 13 year old. I'd see if I could outsmart mom.   
   >>   
   >> But I stand by the fact that we don't know she runs around behind him   
   >> like a hound dog and yells at him like she's a drill sargent and he's a   
   >> recruit. What we know is that she keeps track of her young son and who   
   >> his friends are.   
   >   
   > No, all we know is that she _thinks_ she keeps track of him.  IMO she'd be   
   > much better off trying to establish some trust and communication between   
   > her and her son, although it is probably too late by now :-(   
   >   
   > Alan   
   >   
      
   My gut reaction to the story was -- "Who doesn't she trust - her kid or her   
   parenting?"  But the going public with it was completely uncalled for.   
   Humiliating your kid is not good parenting, it only fuels mistrust and   
   resentment.  Even if he eventually comes to understand and grudgingly   
   approve of her spying -- and her admitted sneaking around makes it spying as   
   opposed to 'keeping tabs' -- he's not going to understand why she thought it   
   necessary to humiliate him.   
      
   There is no reason why should sneak around.  She pays the bills for the   
   internet account and the cell phone -- she can demand to see them at   
   anytime.  If he refuses, she can cancel them.  Spying is unnecessary and   
   will likely do more harm than good.   
      
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