From: alanb@sonic.net   
      
   Alan B. Mac Farlane M.A.   
   P.O. Box 9554   
   Santa Rosa, CA  95405   
   707 541 7062   
      
   March 14, 2010   
      
   Sonoma County Sheriff Department   
   2796 Ventura Ave.,   
   Santa Rosa, CA 95403   
   Attn: Sheriff Deputy Jaap 921   
      
   Report Number 100310-029   
      
   Re: SCV-244905   
      
   Dear Sheriff Deputy Jaap:   
      
   On or about 1700 hrs on Wednesday last (10 March) we had a conversation   
   about Jeremy Gardea, the Respondent on the restraining order referenced   
   above.  This letter is to follow up on that conversation and to return   
   the pen you gave me to fill out the “Narrative Statement Form SCSD-5   
   (7/93) regarding the ‘WEIRD” behaviour of Jeremy Gardea you concluded   
   when you investigated the alleged restraining order violation of Jeremy   
   Gardea stalking me, putting me under surveillance, and even him   
   reporting another drug crime to you concerning my self and a neighbor   
   called “DAN” apparently in your conversation with him … or so you told me.   
      
   Also in the conversation you reported to me that you were having trouble   
   “reading” me, in how I was communicating and me trying to understand how   
   Jeremy Gardea was NOT VIOLATING the Restraining Order in your opinion …   
   and I came up with an example of Gardea being on orders to stay 300 feet   
   away from me, and he decides to stay away 301 feet from me 24 hours a   
   day in minding his own business as an example of being WEIRD.  To which   
   there was no response from you as you walked away.   
      
   As to the general subject of reading people Deputy Jaap, this is what I   
   want to use this letter in discussing with you if I may have permission   
   to do so.   
      
   You may know already that I am an ex-cop (Combat Law Enforcement   
   Patrolman, USAF 81250) and in being an academic, research and education   
   psychologist which would make me a behavioral profiler if you like.   
      
   Please consider that in your past, you have been with people who are   
   stuck in their toddler tantrum, and they present well making for a   
   pleasing appearance for you to become used to over the decades of   
   training and hard work in developing your BS detectors … as it were ...   
   in reading people up to now.   
      
   The use of the word toddler tantrum is educative, and not in the   
   perjorative, or when I talk about men and boys in this missive to you.   
   It is easier for women to understand the toddler tantrum and how it   
   presents in adults then it is for men.  Discerning this will be a good   
   tune up to you reading people in my considered and learned opinion.  In   
   the depths of it, this can be seen with angry drunks or happy drunks.   
   Later on in life when they lose their hormones, they become grumpy old   
   boys in old bodies, or happy old men in old bodies depending if they   
   live in fear, or they live in love.   
      
   I hope you can see that boys would talk down to you, use shame and   
   criticism, while men would respect your intelligence and give you the   
   full measure of love, dignity and respect you deserve.   
      
   Boys would get weird on Court Orders and always want something, while   
   Men would follow the court orders and not want anything from you.   
      
   Boys justify, invalidate, quibble, argue and fight, while Men have   
   nothing to prove.   
      
   There is more to this, in getting the wit of it all.  However when ever   
   you hear a person justify themselves, invalidate others, talk down or   
   bark at people, engage in magical thinking in doing weird behavior, that   
   is the toddler tantrum talking to you who will lie, cheat and steal from   
   the cookie jar.  As this is for combat, it is for war, and that is why   
   the Defense Structure makes the toddler tantrum; so suppressing or   
   fighting it is the wrong thing to do … love is the only answer really.   
   Everything inside of you is to be loved and come forward as love, this I   
   respectfully propose is the basis for healthy parenting and I submit is   
   the basis for this letter to you.   
      
   So brace your self as it necessary to get to the point and not waste   
   your time.   
      
   Sheriff Deputy Jaap, you have trouble reading every one ... not just me.   
     This is a function of fear and post traumatic stress disorder, it   
   happens to everyone stuck in there toddler tantrum as a necessary result   
   of child abuse.  I could be talking to Jeremy Gardea who lives in fear   
   and knows nothing of love, as he has the same problem … as there has to   
   be a basis for his weird behaviour you know and his active   
   misrepresentations.  Healthy responsible reasonable people do not do   
   what Jeremy Gardea does I hope you could agree.  They would mind their   
   own business.   
      
   There it is in a nutshell … you could do some more reading on the   
   internet if you like if you want to wrap your intellectual mind around   
   the emotional map of the human being.   
      
   Once you start down this road of discover in expanding your emotional   
   intelligence you will see the toddler tantrum in people every time and   
   this fore knowledge will keep you rather safe in extrapolating their   
   perpetrations and in avoiding them as they do dumb stuff.  Remember they   
   are little boys or girls … so there is not much to them in the profile.   
     By the way … 90% of the DSM-4 (Diagnostic Service Manual) is just   
   people being stuck in the toddler tantrum, and the other 10% is a broken   
   brain like a broken arm and needing medical care.   
      
   Once the love burns though their fears, judgments, expectations,   
   justifications, invalidations and magical thinking of the toddler   
   tantrum then they get better, grow up to be a man or be a woman and stop   
   having the poor judgment of a child so they can deal with life, the law,   
   sex, money, children, there neighbors, etc.   
      
   Sincerely and respectfully submitted for your consideration.   
      
      
      
      
   Alan B. Mac Farlane   
      
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