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    "Alan B. Mac Farlane"  wrote:   
      
   > in article C1F790C5.31D6C%alanb@sonic.net, Alan B. Mac Farlane at   
   > alanb@sonic.net wrote on 2/13/07 3:59 PM:   
   >   
   > > So Tommy gets his way ... the parent objects are doing everything right ...   
   > > Tommy is furious   
   >   
   >   
   > when the parent objects leave the child alone thusly ... and taking the   
   > utmost care at the same time ... the emotions have to burn through the   
   > child.   
   >   
   > this is where the child ... starts to mature.   
   >   
   > to grow up.   
   >   
   > later on in life ... there are loss, their are pains, there are things taken   
   > away from you .. and that pain, that hurt has to burn its way through the   
   > person to heal them.   
   >   
   > this is where consciousness come from via the emotional intelligence.   
   >   
   > sooo ... children who are not given the opportunity to have these emotions   
   > burn through them .. via abuse vectors, abandonment vectors, emotional   
   > depravations and lack of modeling ... well they have PTSD issues tied into   
   > the tempertantrum locked in its frozen emotion.   
   >   
   > it is a survival issue from the defense structure ment to protect them, and   
   > it is good ... how the tempertantrum looks like depression, attachment   
   > disorders, disattachment disorders, borderline personality disorders,   
   > attention deficet disorder, etc etc etc.   
   >   
   > Moving the frozen emotion and have it burn through you to get better is   
   > something most people are not wont to do as it hurts so freaking much later   
   > on in life.   
   >   
   > There is so much of it that has to be unburdened in the muscle memory that   
   > was necessary for survival ... and it works.   
   >   
   > You are here reading this.   
   >   
   > The Defense Structure makes everything .. it makes near death experiences,   
   > it makes stop signs, it makes dreams, it makes who you love, your children,   
   > what happens to you ... to heal you, your family, your past, your future,   
   > your nation and the world if you but go with it.   
   >   
   > If you resist it ... then it just makes things worst as it were since that   
   > is what being held on ... until one faces one fears locking in the frozen   
   > emotion .. which is the basic tempertantrum.   
   >   
   > One learns to love mom, pour love into her wounds, be conscious like a   
   > healthy parent object would.  Same for dad ... understand him that way with   
   > that kind of love.   
   >   
   > Fix up Dad inside and your divorce rate goes away.   
   >   
   > Fix up Mom inside and your addictions goes away.   
   >   
   > The tempertantrum comes out to the degree you go after it, melting the   
   > frozen emotions in the muscle memory as all disease has to come out of the   
   > body.  It was not in there from the beginning ... that is all good from the   
   > get go.   
   >   
   > It just was not handle well after a good start.   
   >   
   > But that can be put to remedy.   
   >   
   > IMO and all that rot.   
   >   
   > Alan   
      
   Well, could be; good stories, anyway.  Thanks for the   
   elucidation.   
      
   C   
      
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