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   From: chotii@outdamned.oz.net.spam.easynews.com   
      
   "Steve S."  wrote in message   
   news:uSRed.51$R05.31@attbi_s53...   
   >   
   > "Paul Allen Panks"  wrote in message   
   > news:f26111c2.0410182108.8ffa6a7@posting.google.com...   
   >> I have come to the conclusion that "Girl B" will   
   >> never apologize to me for her disrespectful behavior   
   >> (circa 2000 to 2003). She is inherently dishonest,   
   >> completely untrue and a compulsive liar. For   
   >> almost two years since we broke up, "Girl B" has   
   >> never once apologized to me for her behavior. I find   
   >> this not only disturbing, but appalling.   
      
   > Wow. Not a single person validated Paul. The responses were about 50-50   
   > between people who dismissed him aggressively, and people who dismissed   
   > him   
   > in a caring way as mentally ill.   
   >   
   > Paul, believe in yourself. The main problem you have is not believing in   
   > yourself. If you believed in yourself, you wouldn't get taken in by   
   > predatory women (and there are no shortage of them), and you also wouldn't   
   > be opening yourself up to people who don't understand you. You would also   
   > not be getting labeled (if you have been labeled) or being put on meds. To   
   > the contrary, you would find better women who have a conscience, and you   
   > would find people who understand and validate your experience. If you are   
   > off-balance mentally, you would find a way to regain your balance without   
   > joining this crowd of people who are normal by society's standards and   
   > thus   
   > are limited to the two options of either being aggressive or patronizing.   
      
   The thing is, Paul insists that he requires an apology for wretched behavior   
   against him. But he's hardly unique in being on the receiving end of such   
   behavior, nor is he the only person who will never get one. I'm sure that   
   Girl B felt entirely justified in her behavior. Perhaps she is narcissistic,   
   and no more capable of apologising than she is of spreading her arms and   
   flying to the moon. If Paul gives Girl B the power to literally cripple him,   
   then Girl B will have that power. Or, Paul can decide for himself that Girl   
   B has no power over him, that he can and will move on without her apology,   
   which she clearly is not big enough to give....   
      
   It's Paul's choice: give Girl B power over him, or refuse to give her this   
   power. Make no mistake. It's his choice. Apparently he chooses to give her   
   power over him.  But, if he does, he shouldn't expect sympathy from people   
   who know how harmful that must be.   
      
   --angela   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
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