From: alanb@sonic.net   
      
   in article C1F790C5.31D6C%alanb@sonic.net, Alan B. Mac Farlane at   
   alanb@sonic.net wrote on 2/13/07 3:59 PM:   
      
   > So Tommy gets his way ... the parent objects are doing everything right ...   
   > Tommy is furious   
      
      
   when the parent objects leave the child alone thusly ... and taking the   
   utmost care at the same time ... the emotions have to burn through the   
   child.   
      
   this is where the child ... starts to mature.   
      
   to grow up.   
      
   later on in life ... there are loss, their are pains, there are things taken   
   away from you .. and that pain, that hurt has to burn its way through the   
   person to heal them.   
      
   this is where consciousness come from via the emotional intelligence.   
      
   sooo ... children who are not given the opportunity to have these emotions   
   burn through them .. via abuse vectors, abandonment vectors, emotional   
   depravations and lack of modeling ... well they have PTSD issues tied into   
   the tempertantrum locked in its frozen emotion.   
      
   it is a survival issue from the defense structure ment to protect them, and   
   it is good ... how the tempertantrum looks like depression, attachment   
   disorders, disattachment disorders, borderline personality disorders,   
   attention deficet disorder, etc etc etc.   
      
   Moving the frozen emotion and have it burn through you to get better is   
   something most people are not wont to do as it hurts so freaking much later   
   on in life.   
      
   There is so much of it that has to be unburdened in the muscle memory that   
   was necessary for survival ... and it works.   
      
   You are here reading this.   
      
   The Defense Structure makes everything .. it makes near death experiences,   
   it makes stop signs, it makes dreams, it makes who you love, your children,   
   what happens to you ... to heal you, your family, your past, your future,   
   your nation and the world if you but go with it.   
      
   If you resist it ... then it just makes things worst as it were since that   
   is what being held on ... until one faces one fears locking in the frozen   
   emotion .. which is the basic tempertantrum.   
      
   One learns to love mom, pour love into her wounds, be conscious like a   
   healthy parent object would.  Same for dad ... understand him that way with   
   that kind of love.   
      
   Fix up Dad inside and your divorce rate goes away.   
      
   Fix up Mom inside and your addictions goes away.   
      
   The tempertantrum comes out to the degree you go after it, melting the   
   frozen emotions in the muscle memory as all disease has to come out of the   
   body.  It was not in there from the beginning ... that is all good from the   
   get go.   
      
   It just was not handle well after a good start.   
      
   But that can be put to remedy.   
      
   IMO and all that rot.   
      
   Alan   
      
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