From: morning_glory@blueyonder.co.uk
"jay" wrote in message
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> blidow@hotmail.com wrote:
>>
>> i have been having some dreams about sexuality. for the past few months
>>
>> i have been questioning my sexuality. i am a 26 yr old male and i live
>> with my girlfriend of 3 yrs. i have only had hetero reltionships in the
>>
>> past.
>>
>> basically i started questioning my sexuality because i already had a
>> deep rooted fear of turning gay, some people have asked if was gay, i
>> have zero close male friends in my life & feel lonely in terms of male
>> companionship, and while people watching i realized i would check guys
>> out. all of these things & more (i wont go into details-thats a
>> different group) combined to really freak me out and cause extreme
>> anxiety. so much so i considered suicide because i couldnt take the
>> stress/anxiety or the thought of becoming gay.
>>
>> DREAM
>> i never had any male sexual desires but last night i had a dream that
>> some semi-famous actor wanted to mess around with me and he started
>> fondling me. in my dream i felt curious but said no then started
>> fingering some random girl.
>>
>> then another dream i had i was in a search party for a missing person.
>> i tackled some guy who turned out to be in the search party too, and
>> started cuddling with him. his face was a guy i knew in highschool who
>> we use to make fun of because he acted sort of gay. so it was a guys
>> face but 'he' had no penis, and had girl panties on. after cuddling for
>>
>> awhile and feeling curious about hooking up i decided no, got up and
>> left.
>>
>> these dreams are the 1st ones in which i actually touch another guy.
>> and of course this has really triggered my anxiety again, and questions
>> about my sexuality.
>>
>> do these dreams necassarily mena i want gay sex? or could they be
>> happening just because i am questioning my sexuality? i am freaked out!
>>
>> help!
>
> Just wanna start off by saying i'm not a dream interpreter
> or anything .. just another nobody who reads this group
>
> ---
> Personally i wouldn't worry about those dreams if i were
> you..
>
> i've had dreams where i was in a 'gay club' & danced with
> another guy and others where i even kissed a guy...
> ...i don't let those dreams bother me -- i blow 'em off
> as "its just a dream" .. the more you worry about
> something, and/or more its on your mind, the more it
> makes its way into dreams.
>
> as a side note to the dreams i had:
> i've never even been to a club or bar..
> i couldn't dance to save my life..
> nor have i ever had homo relations..
> so who knows where they came from
>
> but back to your dreams...
> the fact that you said 'no' to the guys in those dreams is
> a good sign that you're not gay
> i'd say the dreams happened because of questioning your
> sexuality ...
> If everything feels right with your girlfriend then
> there's probably no need to questioning, especially if
> you feel no (sexual) interest towards other guys when
> awake
I'd agree with this. When we dream, it doesn't mean we are experiencing our
innermost passions. Rather, its a way of experimenting (safely) with
possibilities and even fears. That's the joy of it! I've had lucid dreams
about all sorts of things I wouldn't venture to do or want to do in real
life. The wonderful thing is that you can do anything you want in lucid
dreaming without repercussions (unless, of course, you beat yourself up
about it).
It seems to me that the key is to see LD as a playful and enjoyable
facility.
Regards
Morning Glory
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