From: dicksilk@gmail.com   
      
   On Friday, February 7, 2020 at 10:35:51 PM UTC-6, Rspene smit wrote:   
   > My wife of 28 years passed about 10 years ago, I have occasional dreams of   
   her, but she appears to never speak a word to me,   
      
   NOTE:  I know this may sound silly, but it helps (when going to bed, to sleep)   
   to *imagine* oneself in a whispering conversation with an individual.    
   Remember to listen / receive as much as to give / transmit.   
      
   > we interact in each dream but never speaks to me,    
      
   practice the whisper-trick each night while going to sleep.  That is, IF you   
   really have anything you think she ought to know about— feelings,   
   confessions, ideas about tomorrow, etc.   
      
   >last night it was a dream about me being in a Frat house type of setting, she   
   was the cook fixing burgers of all types and many college-age kids there, and   
   myself 59 and her and my 12 yr old grandson like he was apart of the group of   
   college kids.   
      
   In a dream zone that's free of the constraints of time, such timelessness   
   makes things slightly more understandable:  for example, even though your   
   grandson is only 12, someday (Lord willing) he *will* become a college   
   student, so what values do you feel    
   he's capable of "digesting" *now* that will help carry him through his future   
   experiences?  For instance, consider the value of a family picnic (in his   
   youth) and what that will mean to him *later* in life?   
       
   > Any ideas why she never seems to speak to me in the dreams"   
      
   practice the whisper-chat technique.   
      
   >and any ideas on what the most recent dream about her and my grandson may   
   have meant,   
      
   (see above.)   
      
   >he just showed me around with all the many different types of burgers she   
   made, both of our favorite type of food, we talk about them and just mingled   
   with the group she kept cooking and serving food.   
      
   Perhaps he has a latent interest in cooking, especially burgers?  That would   
   certainly make for an interesting weekend or otherwise periodic get-together:    
   "Hey, how would you like to go out to a new burger joint?" (a new joint every   
   time.)  Think of the    
   bonding that might create!  (And remember to speak glowingly of how your late   
   wife used to cook them, but don't "overdo it.")   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)