From: dicksilk@gmail.com   
      
   On Wednesday, May 27, 2020 at 8:35:43 AM UTC-5, sandydo...@gmail.com wrote:   
   > Hello Dick,   
   >      When you lost your last 3 children was it an open or closed adoption?   
      
   I *suspect* the term is "closed" but I'm not an attorney (which is likely why   
   they are no longer with me.)  In the previous case, I had an *excellent*   
   attorney who actually *fought* for me and the kids.  In the 2nd case, I knew   
   the attorney was useless,    
   and eventually the case was lost, but mostly due to my incurring brain   
   damage.  There was NO WAY I could continue in that state.   
      
   > Are you waiting for them to contact you and do you know where they now live?   
      
   I'm not "waiting," so much as I have no expectation of their making contact   
   until Logan (the eldest) reaches 18.  But even then, it's more of a "if they   
   do, they do" kind of situation.  I love my kids.  Part of that meant having to   
   allow them a better    
   opportunity for a better life, as gut-wrenchingly hard as that was to achieve.   
      
   > Over the years Gina has had several chances to marry you but instead she   
   divorces her husband and marry another guy. So just where does this leave you?   
      
   Gina's mother is on her 3rd marriage (which seems fairly good from what little   
   I've been able to detect.)  I pretty much realized on the 2nd occasion of   
   having met Gina that she had/has a LOT of her mother's nature in her.  Again,   
   that Gina *divorced*    
   her (first) Canadian husband is *major* step in the *right* direction! :)    
   Now, FINALLY, I'm moving into the position of being able to support her.  And   
   even then, nothing is guaranteed, but at least I have a proper goal and a   
   proper direction.     
   EVERYTHING that ever happened was *my* fault.  Coming to understand *that* was   
   *also* a major step in the right direction :)  One thing is *absolutely*   
   certain:  If one ever quits, one never finishes.   
      
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