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|    beau Brody to Beaver Fever    |
|    Re: i went on a date (1/2)    |
|    11 Aug 22 02:53:34    |
      From: beauprinting@gmail.com              On Friday, 24 June 2022 at 12:53:10 UTC+5, Beaver Fever wrote:       > On Tuesday, June 21, 2022 at 12:56:33 PM UTC-7, art...@yahoo.com wrote:        > > On Monday, June 20, 2022 at 4:30:45 PM UTC-6, Beaver Fever wrote:        > > > It was actually a good one. Though I had pretty much given up (again)       after a pretty discouraging pandemic era attempt at finding better lockdown       companionship than my roommate and his cat. And 48 years with little       experience or success, completely        impoverished until around age 40, but still no car and don't have my own place       etc, HUGE disqualifying factors leaving little hope if I ever want decent       female company. Not to mention deep personal flaws that just cannot be fixed.        > > >        > > > And I returned to my old pre-pandemic life which is pretty intensely       paced, this time without even pretending to let something like a job get in       the way and with no intention of slowing down or altering it one iota for       anyone else. However I had        been invited to join Facebook dating so I did. Typical waste of time, even       more so since most of my matches are in Mexico! But it's free and no upsell       and few stolen pictures of eastern European models hitting my feed.        > > >        > > > Rarely initiate contact or anything though I sometimes made indecent       proposals through Google translate with predictable results.        > > >        > > > But this one match, basically a massive fan of a certain band saying       other fans should contact her. Now I am not a fan and actually let it go a few       days. But as a super music fan and avid concert goer (like every night,       really) I had to say        something. You see, even though us super fans see ourselves as having some       sort of inherent exceptionalism but most people see us as total kooks, not       much different than the 50 year old who still plays with Star Wars toys. I       mean I am a massive Rolling        Stones fan and even I find some of their fans to be completely bonkers even       beyond my tolerance.        > > >        > > > So my mind kept returning back and I really had to at least make an       attempt to talk to her and still find some sort of common ground. So I       contacted her to tell her I saw the band on their first little bar tour, if       not the hundreds of times they        played since. Totally expected to get blown off but conversation kept going       and numbers were exchanged.        > > >        > > > And her reaction to my lifestyle was I WANT YOUR LIFE. Though it's not       so much fun as it looks on my Facebook feed, but constant unrelenting need for       escapism. We met for dinner once, hit it off thought I didn't feel an       immediate sexual attraction        but I liked her and talking to her and sharing stories and experiences with       constant texts and possible future meetings. I am just happy to have a       possible new friend but no idea what she is thinking.        > > >        > > > Saturday's concert was mostly sold out, I was going to go and find a       ticket outside and was prepared to pay a lot if I had to as it involved a few       bucket list bands of advancing age. But the night before I was just handed a       pair and went ahead and        put it on blast in case any friends wanted to join me.        > > >        > > > She was the first to respond with I wanna go!        > > >        > > > Concerts, for me at least, do not work as dates. Going every night       doesn't mean I am rich, it just means I know how to do it cheap. Find cheap       tickets on the crashing secondary market, take the bus, don't eat and drink       inside. And say it again, don'       t pay for parking, which has gone into the stratosphere post-pandemic. Just       the parking can cost me ten grand a year as much as I go. Be in my seat when       the opening band goes on and no leaving early to beat traffic, no beer running       mid set. Oh, and I        have to record everything so no talking but my hearing is blown out so I can't       really verbally communicate anyway. And I don't even wanna go with anyone who       isn't also a total concert pro. None of which works well for making an       impression on a female.        But I wasn't in that mindset, just I am going to see this band, you can come       along but this is how it is.        > > >        > > > So I kinda gently explain how I am not really good concert company. Not       to mention my resurgent marijuana habit (thanks lockdown, goodbye ten years)       and I had an infused treat I was saving just for this show.        > > >        > > > But she goes to lots of concerts too if just the one band and gets it       and I am not particularly worried. If it's a spectacular fail I am not going       to let it ruin my night. I have no eye on the future here. She says we will       split parking and with        the free tickets I am not going to cheap out now but it's not something I am       going to make a habit of doing every night.        > > >        > > > We went, everything went smoothly from getting there with time to spare,       It was a great show, we had a great time, I even went to guest services and       got us better seats. And we found one free street spot half a block away and       closer than even most        of the parking lots.        > > >        > > > So she got the full look at the Beaver_Fever concert experience that few       people understand or enjoy, where I could totally be myself without worry, she       could definitely hang, have a good time and we ended up hanging out at my       place til 3am and will        be seeing each other again.        > > >        > > > I don't believe that immediate physical attraction is a must. Not like       mutual respect and shared values. There are a few things like she is way older       than me and already having physical problems so I am just little discouraged       over what my options        really are now since I was pretty much excluded from participating for most of       my life.        > > >        > > > No idea where this is going, I actually have most of the year mapped out       with almost nightly concerts and lots of travel with every intention of       preserving that. But very satisfied that my social and possible dating life       took a new and interesting        turn, even if for one night.        > > >        > > > I mostly wanted a new like minded friend but I will take any benefits       offered.        > > >        > > > How's everybody else doing?        > > Don't leave us in suspense. What was the band?       > I really should have edited this better. A few bits and pieces I should have       left out. Things are still chugging along, kinda still feel like a bystander       in all this        >        > https://youtu.be/cP8VfeVxfKY        >        > and about a good as a concert kick off as I have seen        >        > https://youtu.be/9OIiFAe7FEY              [continued in next message]              --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05        * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)    |
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