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|    Qaiser Tariq to Beaver Fever    |
|    Re: i went on a date    |
|    21 Sep 22 04:59:58    |
      From: qaiser.tariq@technado.co              On Tuesday, 21 June 2022 at 03:30:45 UTC+5, Beaver Fever wrote:       > It was actually a good one. Though I had pretty much given up (again) after       a pretty discouraging pandemic era attempt at finding better lockdown       companionship than my roommate and his cat. And 48 years with little       experience or success, completely        impoverished until around age 40, but still no car and don't have my own place       etc, HUGE disqualifying factors leaving little hope if I ever want decent       female company. Not to mention deep personal flaws that just cannot be fixed.        >        > And I returned to my old pre-pandemic life which is pretty intensely paced,       this time without even pretending to let something like a job get in the way       and with no intention of slowing down or altering it one iota for anyone else.       However I had been        invited to join Facebook dating so I did. Typical waste of time, even more so       since most of my matches are in Mexico! But it's free and no upsell and few       stolen pictures of eastern European models hitting my feed.        >        > Rarely initiate contact or anything though I sometimes made indecent       proposals through Google translate with predictable results.        >        > But this one match, basically a massive fan of a certain band saying other       fans should contact her. Now I am not a fan and actually let it go a few days.       But as a super music fan and avid concert goer (like every night, really) I       had to say something.        You see, even though us super fans see ourselves as having some sort of       inherent exceptionalism but most people see us as total kooks, not much       different than the 50 year old who still plays with Star Wars toys. I mean I       am a massive Rolling Stones fan        and even I find some of their fans to be completely bonkers even beyond my       tolerance.        >        > So my mind kept returning back and I really had to at least make an attempt       to talk to her and still find some sort of common ground. So I contacted her       to tell her I saw the band on their first little bar tour, if not the hundreds       of times they played        since. Totally expected to get blown off but conversation kept going and       numbers were exchanged.        >        > And her reaction to my lifestyle was I WANT YOUR LIFE. Though it's not so       much fun as it looks on my Facebook feed, but constant unrelenting need for       escapism. We met for dinner once, hit it off thought I didn't feel an       immediate sexual attraction but        I liked her and talking to her and sharing stories and experiences with       constant texts and possible future meetings. I am just happy to have a       possible new friend but no idea what she is thinking.        >        > Saturday's concert was mostly sold out, I was going to go and find a ticket       outside and was prepared to pay a lot if I had to as it involved a few bucket       list bands of advancing age. But the night before I was just handed a pair and       went ahead and put        it on blast in case any friends wanted to join me.        >        > She was the first to respond with I wanna go!        >        > Concerts, for me at least, do not work as dates. Going every night doesn't       mean I am rich, it just means I know how to do it cheap. Find cheap tickets on       the crashing secondary market, take the bus, don't eat and drink inside. And       say it again, don't        pay for parking, which has gone into the stratosphere post-pandemic. Just the       parking can cost me ten grand a year as much as I go. Be in my seat when the       opening band goes on and no leaving early to beat traffic, no beer running mid       set. Oh, and I have        to record everything so no talking but my hearing is blown out so I can't       really verbally communicate anyway. And I don't even wanna go with anyone who       isn't also a total concert pro. None of which works well for making an       impression on a female. But I        wasn't in that mindset, just I am going to see this band, you can come along       but this is how it is.        >        > So I kinda gently explain how I am not really good concert company. Not to       mention my resurgent marijuana habit (thanks lockdown, goodbye ten years) and       I had an infused treat I was saving just for this show.        >        > But she goes to lots of concerts too if just the one band and gets it and I       am not particularly worried. If it's a spectacular fail I am not going to let       it ruin my night. I have no eye on the future here. She says we will split       parking and with the        free tickets I am not going to cheap out now but it's not something I am going       to make a habit of doing every night.        >        > We went, everything went smoothly from getting there with time to spare, It       was a great show, we had a great time, I even went to guest services and got       us better seats. And we found one free street spot half a block away and       closer than even most of        the parking lots.        >        > So she got the full look at the Beaver_Fever concert experience that few       people understand or enjoy, where I could totally be myself without worry, she       could definitely hang, have a good time and we ended up hanging out at my       place til 3 am and will be        seeing each other again.        >        > I don't believe that immediate physical attraction is a must. Not unlike       mutual respect and shared values. There are a few things like she is way older       than me and already having physical problems so I am just a little discouraged       over what my options        really are now since I was pretty much excluded from participating for most of       my life.        >        > No idea where this is going, I actually have most of the year mapped out       with almost nightly concerts and lots of travel with every intention of       preserving that. But very satisfied that my social and possible dating life       took a new and interesting turn,        even if for one night.        >        > I mostly wanted a new like-minded friend but I will take any benefits       offered.        >        > How's everybody else doing?       Mehsom is the leading quality pulses and peas exporter in Canada. We work in       agri-food industries. 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