From: FStandel@nyc.rr.com
"DRosent240" wrote in message
news:20040425222929.28467.00000266@mb-m25.aol.com...
> >>Actually, I'm a writer so I consider myself an artist too.>>
> >
> >
> >
> >Good! Then maybe you will understand this--experiences in life add to
what
> >you
> >know and possibly what you can put out. But, they only make you
DIFFERENT
> >not
> >necessarily BETTER.
> >
> >The single you could have been a writer and maybe even was. The married
you
> >can be a writer...the mother you can be a writer...the childless you can
be a
> >writer..the divorced you can be a writer...but NO ONE can say when or
from
> >where YOUR greatest work has come from or will come from. Having more
> >experiences only gives you more to think about and possibly more to write
> >about
> >but it doesn't do the writing for you, so it doesn't guarantee you a
better
> >professional output. You should know that.
> >
> >Every experience he has adds to what is inside him but doesn't
necessarily
> >make
> >it possible for him to put that into a performance and it doesn't mean he
> >can't
> >play anything other than what he is. THAT is why it's called acting.
> >
> >This highbrow opinion that he can never reach his full potential until he
is
> >in
> >a lasting relationship is flawed in a million different ways. He has
been
> >married, he has been in more than one 3-year stint...so how long is long
> >enough
> >to understand love? Do you know? Is there an absolute? Would being in
> >another failed marriage make him Oscar-worthy as long as it lasted a
while?
> >
> >Actors in marriages (the successful ones) are constantly separated from
their
> >families for long periods of time. That doesn't sound like a good thing
to
> >me.
> > If they bring them along, what is fun about hanging out on some boring
set
> >all
> >day? And when kids are in school you can't do that. You are
oversimplifying
> >the lives of successful actors and the juggling they do. If he doesn't
want
> >to
> >do it, he knows best for himself. He knows that it would be a case of
mutual
> >sacrifice and if he's not ready to do his part then he's right not to
screw
> >up
> >someone else's life.
> >
> I agree, Idont think you have to live everything all the time.
>
> My friend, the writer, has created some chilling work and none of it she
has
> experiences. She's gone on to be published and is currently working on
her
> next book.
>
> We are the sum total of what we live, no matter when we live it. I dont
think
> he is a stranger to pain, I think if yoiu've been married before and
divorced
> you've been there.
>
> For my part, I think someone to come home to would be nice, I've said
that, I
> dont think it would make him a better actor, but a more satisfied man, in
his
> personal life. And this is only based on the little I've seen and heard,
and
> his comments about NOT wanting to end up exactly where he is.
>
> At the end of the day, we all get the life, that we work for, and for him,
it
> seems, its work. I think, for my part, this is a mistake, you cant live
> through you friend, family or for your work. Becasue you see when the
friends
> go home, the family leaves and the work is done, you have what? IMO its
not
> enough, those are nice, but throw into the mix a nice solid relationship,
not
> for your work for yourself, for when the lights go down at night, you are
not
> worrying about how much will hit the papers or when. You just wonder if
> youput the dog out or if he did (well he in my case )
It's great that your marriage is working out for you and gives you something
stable to come home to. Unfortunately, it's not that way for everyone. My
brother, for example, loves his wife and new son, but feels more comfortable
at work. I think all should do what's best for them and if they feel they
don't want to do something for fear of hurting that other person, then stay
away from that action.
Feesha
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