XPost: alt.religion.christian.east-orthodox, sci.psychology.personality   
   From: invalid@address.none   
      
   On Mon, 3 Jul 2006 10:13:46 +0000 (UTC),   
   vjp2.at@at.BioStrategist.dot.dot.com wrote:   
      
   >   My mom's sister's husband was technical director of the Greek sub base.   
   >Whenever he got the file of a new inductee, he checked if the parents had   
   >different addresses, in which case he tried to pass the new inductee to   
   >another officer. My uncle knew that within the two years he would have that   
   >inductee under his command, he would not be able to turn that person   
   >around. My aunt, who he married, lost her dad when she was three. For her, he   
   >had a lot more time. This is not a cruel person, just a realist. He happens   
   >to be my favorite uncle-in-law and his dad and granpa were priests.   
   >   
   >   The cruelest thing in modern society is latchkey kids and kids from broken   
   >homes. The psychological scars are immense. I know from my colleagues and   
   >friends. Number one flaw is impulsiveness and inability to control temper. At   
   >least my late dad lost both his folks before age five from natural causes. He   
   >always had this lost look in his eyes.  My mom and her seven siblings were   
   >ages 3-23 when the reds killed my granpa and I have like a gallery of orphans   
   >to see how it affected each of them at different ages. (Largely, their   
   >emotional development froze at their age when my granpa was killed.)   
   >   
   >   I believe understanding the causes makes us better persons. Because of my   
   >family experiences, I am much more tolerant of my friends who are from broken   
   >homes. I told one friend about another "How come you would feel sorry for him   
   >if he had no arm but not that he had no father?" Mind you, they can make my   
   >life miserable, but at least I know to cut some distance and not blame them   
   >for things not under their control. I also know not to put them in positions   
   >where their diplomatic skills are required.   
   >   
   You know, a very wise person once told me that if you dig deep enough,   
   you'll find something seriously wrong with *everyone*. So do we cut   
   everyone a lot of slack? If we do so, the world won't be able to   
   function. It's expected that "normal" people try to overcome their   
   disabilities, or at least try to compensate for them. In fact, people   
   thrive on challenges.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)