XPost: misc.phone.mobile.iphone, comp.mobile.ipad
From: bt@home.none.invalid
On Wed, 26 Dec 2018 16:30:25 -0000 (UTC), arlen holder
wrote:
>On Wed, 26 Dec 2018 11:08:05 -0500, nospam wrote:
>
>> at which point you told him that he had only a 5th grade education and
>> was playing childhood games, that he was lying and you were the only
>> one with the facts, and then went to socialize with the adults in the
>> room.
>
>Actually, since it was a party where there was a lot going on, we were
>conversing at the table where everyone was sampling the expensive wines
>near a Faberge egg display, where the following conversation, cross my
>heart, took place...
Well, since you crossed your heart, I guess the rest can be taken at
face value. Once a heart has been crossed, no untrue word can be spoken.
>We had conversed for only a few moments, where all these Silicon Valley
>execs are my neighbors so we know each other well in the non-professional
>environment (I take them on hikes, for example), when I saw exec 1 (let's
>call him "AC") pull out his iPhone for some reason - which is when I had
>asked him why on earth such a smart guy uses such a dumb phone.
I don't envy you and your Aspergers. You have no social skills
whatsoever. Don't like my observation? Read on for another opinion or
two.
>AC was the guy whose teams develop on both Android & iOS where he was the
>one to later told me that there are public APIs (yes, plural even) on iOS
>that are not on Android, such as the one to handled encrypted DNS (which is
>the only API I could get out of him at the rather busy party).
>
>Just about that time, exec 2, let's call him MB, who happens to have both
>but who was using Android at that moment, chimed in that "I have absolutely
>no people skills", to which I asked what he meant. He said "you're so smart
>and yet you don't know how to get a message across", to which his friend
>"AC" concurred.
>
>MB openly volunteered to take me under his wing to "teach me people
>skills", where I was so confused as to whether he was joking or being
>serious that I looked over to AC and asked, "is he serious?".
People with Aspergers have trouble with nuanced emotions such as sarcasm
versus sincerity. You should have just told them that you have AS. They
probably already guessed it, but confirmation might have helped them to
relate to you in a way that works better for you.
>AC pointed back to MB saying, "See! He can't read you even enough to tell
>if you're being serious or if you're joking". MB insisted he was serious
>(we are friends, after all), but he insisted at the same time that at a
>party, it's not proper to insult the intelligence of people simply for
>choosing to use the iPhone.
>
>I _still_ don't know if he was serious or joking, but both "said" they were
>serious. We moved on to other conversations shortly thereafter, so I didn't
>get a chance (yet) to pump AC for details on the specific APIs that Apple
>has which Android does not - but clearly AC took affront when I told him
>how worthless iOS is compared to Android (although AC nodded in agreement
>when I said there was plenty functionality on Android that isn't on iOS).
>
>AC mainly took affront that I claimed there was 0 on iOS not already on
>Android, while MB thought that I could use my obvious intelligence a bit
>less brutally honestly up front. He said he'd love to coach me.
>
>True story.
Even without the crossing of the heart, it rings true to me. You've
perfectly and accurately described the behavior of a person with AS. You
have my sympathies. Life is surely hard for you, especially when life
presents you with a social situation for which you are totally
unequipped and unprepared.
--- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05
* Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)
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