From: someone@anywheret.net   
      
   "JimD"  wrote in message news:2017022313453499244-email@nowherecom...   
      
   > I was 30 the first time.  The stress was from stopping playing music full   
   > time.   
      
   Wow! You got it 12 years earlier than I did, but then a Music disaster would   
   be more than enough cause.   
      
   > Had just quit. Walked away from the record company, the management agency,   
   > the whole deal.  Just quit and moved back here to ohio .... life was big   
   > scary unknown.   
      
   The last thing deliberately walking away from your dream could be is an   
   unknown, but big scary, definitely.   
      
   > My cousin refers to that period as my " failed music career ".   He has no   
   > idea.   
      
   The  word is *aborted* - like a plane aborting a takeoff.   
      
   > I didn't fail, I chose to pick life over what sure as hell looked like the   
   > fast track to hell / death.   
      
   I still don't understand how one can have such a view, IF they're Confident   
   in their Free Will.   
      
   I'll Never do anything that because I'm going to "Go For It", just like the   
   song title!   
      
   > The goup I was in at the time was about a knats wings width from actually   
   > " making the big time ". Problem was, we were very unprepaired for that.   
   > Money, drugs, women .....  all that sounds good, until it kills you.   
      
   What's so difficult about saying NO! ?   
   I was born a 'refusenick' - I can and do say "Yes", *and* "No", to lots of   
   things but the bottom line is that it's *my* decision, NOT someone   
   else's...and I'm confident with my decisions!   
      
   > I look back now, 30plus years later, from a much wiser viewpoint. I have   
   > some of my old buddies from that era around to talk too, the ones that are   
   > still alive. Just a few survivors in my circle, but we talk.   
      
   Just means most people are  STUPID, a Fact clearly indicated by the   
   condition of this country, the growth of Tyranny, and loss of Freedom.   
   They Breed when overpopulation is clearly a Deadly Danger.   
   They O.D. on drugs when not being careful is also clearly a Deadly Danger.   
   And look at the chances they take by driving likd Stupid Idiots.   
   And how many of actually choose to gamble, believing they'll somehow be a   
   winner?   
      
   There's a Very Definite Pattern to it...but that doesn't mean that you have   
   to be like that too, particularly if you CHOOSE NOT TO!   
      
   Even at last week's Bible study at my church, the Silliness was prevalent   
   when a prima donna preacher in a *video* we were watching invited his   
   congregation to stand and hold their hands upward - and the characters I was   
   with all did the same thing for a *video*, all, that is, except yours truly,   
   who remained seated and looked on with such a sense of disappointment, to   
   put it Very mildly - no wonder so many people don't mind tracks - if they'll   
   join in a prerecorded worship service video, they'll certainly do that with   
   audio tracks - DISGUSTING!   
   I'm not sure  if anyone noticed I wasn't participating in the  Lunacy, but   
   If someone has and I'm asked why I remained seated, I'll be quick to explain   
   to them that I'M NOT INTO TRACKS - audio, or video!!!   
      
   > None of us think we made the wrong choices.   
      
   Depends on WHY you  made them.   
      
   > We all realize just what that life really is. Not some prettied up   
   > version.  Think whatever you want, my cousin certainly does, but I'm glad   
   > of where my life went.   
      
   It's no prettier, or uglier than any other kind of so-called   
   'lifestyle'...ONLY the Music matters, because that's Awesome!   
      
   > Bailing out of the music biz .... is just about the right phrase.   
      
   How do you know it wasn't simply an overreaction to a *perceived* danger   
   that you ascribed to yourself just because it befell others you'd known?   
   It's a lot  like the anti gunowner crowd ascribing the very real accidents   
   involving firearms, often fatal ones, which befell the less mature, if not   
   outright Totally Stupid, to everyone else - I don't buy that approach   
   either!   
      
   If on the other hand, you actually *knew* that you wouldn't be able to   
   handle it, then I'd say, don't walk away, RUN - AS FAST AS YOU CAN, FOR DEAR   
   LIFE! But is/was that Really the situation? Or was Fear replacing Judgment?   
      
   Reminds me of what happened one morning many years ago when I was going to   
   work at my electro acoustics engineering job.   
   I was riding my recently acquired used Honda CM400 motorcycle to work,   
   ultimately right past a fatal motorcycle accident scene - the obviously very   
   dead rider's body was being placed in a bag and about 100 feet further away   
   was what was left of his mangled bike laying up against a tree - talk about   
   a feeling of mortality! But I kept riding the CM400, until I got wiped out   
   by an Idiot from Florida who didn't know he was supposed to stop for a red   
   light, even though everyone else was already stopped - that was why I didn't   
   see him until several milliseconds before impact. My bike was pretty much   
   totaled, but not quite so bad for me ;) So what did I do after that - give   
   up riding? Nope, I got a bigger bike, this  time a Honda V45 Magna 750 - and   
   stayed out of trouble with it.   
   I'm glad I didn't succumb to fear and give up riding, because it sure is   
   fun, danger notwithstanding ;)   
      
   > Like bailing out of an airplane that's certainly gonna crash. If you stay   
   > in a plane that's going down it'll kill you, sure as the music industry   
   > would have killed me.   
      
   Jim   
      
   Most planes are very safe but if someone *feels* unsafe in one, they might   
   still bail out of them ;)   
      
   Ouisie   
      
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