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   From: special.care03@gmail.com   
      
   On 27 Mar, 14:51, cynic_...@yahoo.co.uk (Cynic) wrote:   
   >   
   > In the majority of cases where it appears to you that someone has a   
   > ridiculous, stupid and/or self-destructive attitude, it is yourself   
   > who has the wrong attitude because you do not know anything like as   
   > many of the facts as you think you know, and/or the attitude the   
   > person has told you they have is fictitious, and has nothing to do   
   > with the *real* reason they are acting the way they are.   
   >   
   > --   
   > Cynic   
      
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   It is not difficult to understand. Think of the Oxana Malaya video.   
      
   The battered woman is in repetition compulsion, recreating / repeating   
   the emotional states of her relationship with abusive male relatives   
   in early life. She can't stop herself.   
      
   Then there can be transgenerational repetition within a family, which   
   skips one or two generations.   
      
   The Orientals may argue that the grandson is a reincarnation of the   
   dead grandparent, hence the repetition...   
      
   This is explained in "Family Secrets" by John Bradshaw and elsewhere.   
      
   Such books make painful reading.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)