XPost: alt.feminism, soc.women, alt.fashion   
   XPost: alt.religion.wicca   
   From: stefanie.bunko@sympatico.ca   
      
   actually what you've shown is that we are 6x more able to DEAL   
      
      
   "sef"  wrote in message   
   news:1126034937.095259.298960@g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...   
   >"    Researchers find that when only one sex expresses   
   > argument-provoking feelings, it is likely to be the wife-by a ratio   
   > of almost six to one (85 percent vs. 15 percent). When both sexes   
   > participate but one dominates, women are about twice as likely to   
   > dominate. Overall, women are more willing to initiate conflict, more   
   > willing to escalate conflict, better able to handle it when it occurs,   
   > and, when they have initiated it, are quicker to get over it.   
   >   
   >    These findings come from numerous sources. They are found among   
   > couples of high, medium, and low socio-economic status. They are found   
   > using a variety of methodologies: The couples themselves acknowledge   
   > this gap, and, much more reliably, researchers who systematically   
   > observe couples verify the couples' own assessments.   
   >   
   >    Probably the most respected researcher in the field is John Gottman   
   > at the University of Washington. He records pulse rates, heart output,   
   > skin conductance, and other indicators of stress. Then he videotapes   
   > the couples to observe facial expressions and body language. He does   
   > not ask the couples to fight, since that would be artificial. Instead,   
   > he basically works with a couple and when a major area of disagreement   
   > naturally evolves, he asks them to discuss it and attempts to resolve   
   > it. When a fight naturally occurs, the equipment is there to record it.   
   >   
   >    Gottman found that men are more intimidated by angry women than   
   > women are by angry men. Men are more stressed by marital arguments,   
   > while women are more comfortable with emotional confrontation and are   
   > better at it.   
   >   
   > "   
   >   
   > Or maybe, I really hate females, because females really are many times   
   > worse.   
   >   
   > You may have had a few bad relationships, but statistically speaking,   
   > you are 6x more likely to be the one CAUSING the relationship to be   
   > bad.   
   >   
      
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