From: ibshambat@gmail.com   
      
   I have seen any number of bad relationship situations, and I want to provide   
   the people at the receiving end of such things with arguments that they need   
   to stand up for themselves.   
      
   One common way of attacking a woman is claiming her to be a slut. There is a   
   way to deal with such claims. The best one is, “If the woman was not  a   
   slut, she would not be having sex with you, so better thank your lucky stars   
   that the woman is a slut.†  
   � Attractive women will be attractive to men besides their partners, and it   
   would take a lot for them to remain loyal. A woman who is willing to have sex   
   with one man is also likely to be available for sex with any number of other   
   men. With attractive,    
   sexually willing women, there will be men going after them in droves, and it   
   will take a will of steel for the woman to avoid the temptation. So if a man   
   is accusing his woman of being a slut, simply say that he benefits from that   
   state of affairs and    
   that, if not for the woman being promiscuous, he would not be getting sex.   
      
   Another is claiming her to be a bad – even an evil - person. To people who   
   say such things the correct response is, “Why are you with me?â€� If a woman   
   truly was a bad person, the man could not wait to leave her. Instead he   
   chooses to stay. And if    
   you choose to stay, it is because you are getting something out of the   
   relationship. And if you get something out of the relationship with another   
   person, you are obligated to be good to her whatever you believe her character   
   to be.   
      
   Another still is claiming that she is crazy or has a mental illness,   
   especially disorders such as narcissistic and sociopathic. The claim that is   
   made about people with these disorders is that they are bad and can only be   
   bad. Of course that is wrong.    
   Anything human is capable of choice; anything capable of choice can be good.   
   This is as much the case for narcissists and sociopaths as it was for groups   
   that have been demonized before, such as the Jews and the gypsies. As for the   
   woman being crazy, she    
   is in a good company. To come up with original contributions you have to think   
   in original ways, and people who think in original ways will always see people   
   portraying them as crazy.   
      
   These are the main ones I’ve seen, and I would like to see women who are at   
   the receiving end of such treatment get a hold of such arguments and use them   
   to help overcome the abuse.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)