From: ibshambat@gmail.com   
      
   I told my former wife, “Here is the beautiful goddess.” She said, “Being   
   a person is fine.”   
      
   I do not see why there would be a contradiction between the two. You can be   
   both a person and a goddess.   
      
   I have heard it said that women don’t want to be put on a pedestal. Their   
   main reason for that is that they don’t want to be subject to unfair   
   expectations. Certainly, if you put your woman on a pedestal and then start   
   mistreating her should she fall    
   off the pedestal, you are a jerk. However what I’ve found is that good women   
   expect a lot of themselves; and a man who expects a lot of them as well is not   
   doing any violence to the woman’s character or propensities.   
      
   Is it wrong to put a woman up on a pedestal? That depends on what you choose   
   to do should she fall off the pedestal. I remained loving to my former wife   
   even when she did not do everything right. I kept loving her, whether or not   
   she remained perfect.   
      
   If a man is putting a woman up on a pedestal, that should be seen as an   
   opportunity. Here is someone who values you and respects you. More women   
   should honor such things and make a good use for them. You are being valued   
   and cherished. And that leads to    
   far better directions than being with someone who doesn’t value you.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)