From: nospam@example.net   
      
   On Fri, 12 Apr 2024, oldernow wrote:   
      
   > How does one cease taking personally what one caved into   
   > taking personally, and then hyper-dwelled upon until   
   > feeling as though the matter necessitated never again   
   > interacting in the space in which the seeming judgement   
   > occurred?   
      
   Stop warping my reality again! ;) I had a major "taking personally"   
   situation today in the office. My biggest competitor managed to get a   
   consultant into one of my customers and has been poisoning people against   
   me. What's frustrating is that I don't get the chance to defend myself or   
   explain the choices we've made, since I work remotely and my competitor   
   walks around the CEO physically every day, so not much I can do.   
      
   So it is not easy not to take things personally sometimes. But at least it   
   will be a nice challenge to see if I will be able to turn around the   
   situation or not.   
      
   But to my wifes big annoyance I'm an expert at "hyper-dwelling" and this   
   is not healthy. I wish I had a solution, but I'm afraid I don't. =(   
      
   > For example, a few days ago I posted something to   
   > rec.music.beatles that I felt really good about, but the   
      
   I think it happens to most of us. Sometimes I enjoy trolls, especially   
   as long as they are witty and sometimes I can laugh at myself. But one   
   specific troll started to insult my wife, and then it wasn't fun anymore,   
   so sadly, had to block in order not to spend emotional energy.   
      
   > Anyway, that led me to considering no longer bothering with   
   > rec.music.beatles at all going forward. And that feels   
   > harsh. But I do get in punishing moods, and of course am   
   > sufficiently egotistic to imagine my absence could actually   
   > punish others....   
      
   What other groups are good?   
      
   > This is all so ridiculous! Just fucking shoot me now!   
      
   Whoa! You do realize you live in the promised land of guns right? ;)   
      
   > Whoda thunk all those years ago that the primary purpose of   
   > the internet was to help develop human shrugging muscles...?   
      
   It is hard sometimes not to take things personally, but sometimes I manage   
   to get into "the zone" were things just slide off. But today, having this   
   horrible day in the office, one thing sets of another, and it drains me.   
   Better to let go and try and find peace again. =)   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)