From: oldernow@dev.null
On 2024-04-12, D wrote:
>> How does one cease taking personally what one caved into
>> taking personally, and then hyper-dwelled upon until
>> feeling as though the matter necessitated never again
>> interacting in the space in which the seeming judgement
>> occurred?
>
> Stop warping my reality again! ;) I had a major "taking
> personally" situation today in the office. My biggest
> competitor managed to get a consultant into one of my
> customers and has been poisoning people against me. What's
> frustrating is that I don't get the chance to defend myself
> or explain the choices we've made, since I work remotely
> and my competitor walks around the CEO physically every
> day, so not much I can do.
Yikes!
Are you, like, dealing with the pathetic instantiations
of individuality called "humans", or what? ;-)
> But to my wifes big annoyance I'm an expert at
> "hyper-dwelling" and this is not healthy. I wish I had a
> solution, but I'm afraid I don't. =(
Right. It sounds like you're already recursively
hyper-dwelling on hyper-dwelling. Not good. Not good at
all. :-)
My wife does plenty of it too, except she re-labels hers
something good/vital/responsible. To me it's no different
than mine except for being several orders of magnitude
more fixation on "drama", i.e. stories about what's going
on between pathetic instantiations of individuality called
"humans".... :-)
I guess mine has more than a little of that, too, because
I'm firmly in the "hell is other people" camp.
> I think it happens to most of us. Sometimes I enjoy trolls,
> especially as long as they are witty and sometimes I can
> laugh at myself. But one specific troll started to insult
> my wife, and then it wasn't fun anymore, so sadly, had to
> block in order not to spend emotional energy.
Oh my.
My wife have absolutely nothing in "online common". She
doesn't even know I do this. She would consider it
something along the lines of "distraction away from
family". And she's not wrong. But it turns out to be a
multi-decade habit that life feels empty/hollow without.
She also has a sufficiently different philosophy of life
that the things I say about life/reality tend to upset her,
and the things she says about life/reality tend to involve
inner eye-rolling in me.
So, I'm often in a state of trying to sneak this activity
into my day undetected, because I don't need the "heat"
over such.
Isn't it amazing how others cause their own misery by
insisting others be just like them "or else" (i.e. or else
hissy fits and such)?
Along those lines, I'm never surprised by the fuckuppedness
of this world. It's human inhabitants are absolutely bat
shit crazy to the point of it being impossible for them to
see it. I'm basically "nipping and tucking" around their
madness as best I can. Engaging them is almost always a
mistake - unless you just so happen to enjoy the attention
of selfish morons, of course....
(Sorry... didn't have the best of nights....)
> What other groups are good?
They all suck until they don't, but invariably do again. :-)
>> This is all so ridiculous! Just fucking shoot me now!
>
> Whoa! You do realize you live in the promised land of guns
> right? ;)
I'm chuckling, because we live on a river, and two houses down
the gigantic, handmade sign next to a neighbor's dock reads
"God, Guns, and Trump!"
That's not my view of the fundamentals of my being, by the way.
> It is hard sometimes not to take things personally, but
> sometimes I manage to get into "the zone" were things
> just slide off. But today, having this horrible day in
> the office, one thing sets of another, and it drains me.
> Better to let go and try and find peace again. =)
I get it. I'm in the throes of similar.
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