From: nospam@example.net   
      
   On Wed, 1 May 2024, oldernow wrote:   
      
   > A little while ago I expressed to my wife some frustration   
   > that we've a rehearsal with a bass player at 11:00am this   
   > morning for an upcoming performance. But when we made   
   > that commitment, we didn't know that our swimming pool   
   > installation was going to get pushed up. And the electrical   
   > to its motorized filter will be done today, and I want to   
   > get right on completing the filling-with-water process so   
   > that the filter can be used, to avoid the water going bad   
   > in a way requiring "shock"... but now that rehearsal is in   
   > the way, and bringing the pool filter into a working state   
   > will require a bunch of sweat-producing work... and I've   
   > already been putting off a shower to address other matters   
   > that seemingly fell from the sky, and all I was trying to   
   > express was some wonderings about whether we might become   
   > better at leaving spaces in our schedule for things that   
   > will fall from the sky, but all she heard was criticism of   
   > her for having schedule the rehearsal when she did.. and   
   > that led to increased frustration for having to explain to   
   > her that's not what I was trying to say, and of course that   
   > didn't go very well *either*, and so now what I really want   
   > to do is slam the guitar through the sliding glass door,   
   > because of *course* I didn't set out to create discord.   
   >   
   > So, all you Word Believers, why did words fail   
   > "me"? Are you ready to see how isolated points of view   
   > make minced meat of what we want to believe is something   
   > miraculous about words, so that if there's to be a lasting   
   > interpersonal solution, it *has* to be something that is   
   > fundamentally other than word-based?   
      
   You clearly need a secretary! When it comes to words, remember that your   
   wife is a woman and when they are excited no words will come through.   
   Better to say nothing and just "absorb" the energy and once she is calm   
   and rational, then you can start to talk.   
      
   This is my strategy at least and for me, and my woman, it does tend to   
   work more often than not.   
      
   While we're at it... why not learn from the buddha... have you reached the   
   point where your possesions own you, instead of you owning your   
   possesions? ;)   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)