From: oldernow@dev.null   
      
   On 2024-05-01, D  wrote:   
      
   >> A little while ago I expressed to my wife some frustration   
   >> that we've a rehearsal with a bass player at 11:00am this   
   >> morning for an upcoming performance. But when we made   
   >> that commitment, we didn't know that our swimming pool   
   >> installation was going to get pushed up. And the electrical   
   >> to its motorized filter will be done today, and I want to   
   >> get right on completing the filling-with-water process so   
   >> that the filter can be used, to avoid the water going bad   
   >> in a way requiring "shock"... but now that rehearsal is in   
   >> the way, and bringing the pool filter into a working state   
   >> will require a bunch of sweat-producing work... and I've   
   >> already been putting off a shower to address other matters   
   >> that seemingly fell from the sky, and all I was trying to   
   >> express was some wonderings about whether we might become   
   >> better at leaving spaces in our schedule for things that   
   >> will fall from the sky, but all she heard was criticism of   
   >> her for having schedule the rehearsal when she did.. and   
   >> that led to increased frustration for having to explain to   
   >> her that's not what I was trying to say, and of course that   
   >> didn't go very well *either*, and so now what I really want   
   >> to do is slam the guitar through the sliding glass door,   
   >> because of *course* I didn't set out to create discord.   
   >>   
   >> So, all you Word Believers, why did words fail   
   >> "me"? Are you ready to see how isolated points of view   
   >> make minced meat of what we want to believe is something   
   >> miraculous about words, so that if there's to be a lasting   
   >> interpersonal solution, it *has* to be something that is   
   >> fundamentally other than word-based?   
   >   
   > You clearly need a secretary! When it comes to words,   
   > remember that your wife is a woman and when they are   
   > excited no words will come through. Better to say nothing   
   > and just "absorb" the energy and once she is calm and   
   > rational,   
      
   You lost me on that last part.... ;-)   
      
   > then you can start to talk.   
   >   
   > This is my strategy at least and for me, and my woman,   
   > it does tend to work more often than not.   
      
   You bring new meaning to the words "lottery odds". ;-)   
      
   > While we're at it... why not learn from the buddha... have   
   > you reached the point where your possesions own you,   
   > instead of you owning your possesions? ;)   
      
   This "you" won't be happy or unhappy unto there's no longer   
   a "you" to be happy or unhappy.   
      
   And  "she" won't be yappy or unyappy unto there's no longer   
   a "she" to be yappy or unyappy. :-)   
      
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