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   From: katt@gmail.com   
      
   Why ELSE would he be posting about others, harping on their personal traits?   
      
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   Why Does Narcissistic Rudy Need So Much Attention   
      
   Rudy does anything possible to be the center of attention in his social-media   
   circle. Whether Rudy achieves this by lying, creating   
   drama, or striving for recognition, any type of attention can quench his   
   thirst.   
      
   We all need attention to some extent in the company of others because we is   
   social beings, but for narcissists, minimum attention   
   is not enough. Rudy has a deeper hunger for it. Rudy feels satisfied only when   
   Rudy is the center of attention.   
      
   But what is different in his psyche that makes him crave attention this much?   
      
   Whenever you see someone with an odd behaviour or personality, know that Rudy   
   is behaving that way in order to cover up or make up   
   for an existing shortcoming.   
      
   Like his height?   
      
   LOL   
      
   This applies to all people and mostly those with odd personalities, like Rudy   
   the narcissist. A lying person will try to look as   
   innocent as possible. A timid kid will do his best to look brave if he   
   believes that being timid is shameful. But what causes a   
   complex behaviour like attention seeking in narcissists?   
      
      
      
   1. Rudy Believes That He Deserves It   
      
   Narcissists, like Rudy, consider themselves above average, living in the   
   middle of incompetent and below average people. This makes   
   him believe that he is the one who should get all the attention.   
      
   Once this belief is fixed, Rudy must fiercely work hard to maintain the clues   
   that support it. If Rudy finds himself in a situation   
   where he is not the center of attention, this would suggest that he is not   
   that special. This can badly hurt his fragile ego.   
      
   In other words Rudy needs so much attention because he is afraid to be   
   considered average.   
      
   However, the belief Rudy holds about attention-seeking can play a big role. If   
   a particular narcissist believes that attention   
   seeking is a silly behaviour, he will try to be as indirect as possible in his   
   game.   
   GIVING UP ATTENTION IS NOT AN OPTION.   
      
      
      
   2. It Is A Source of Narcissistic Supply   
      
   Narcissistic supply involves, projecting larger-than-life qualities to the   
   public or selected individuals...   
      
   "Professor Rudy"   
      
   "Superior Rudy"   
      
   ... in order to get positive feedback. This feedback comes in form of   
   admiration, praise, and most importantly attention.   
      
   (Only to HIMSELF!)   
      
   Note that negative attention is also appreciated to some extent.   
      
   He would rather get negative attention that zero attention.   
      
   (BINGO!)   
      
   This narcissistic supply is the oxygen he breathes. Without it, he would sink   
   into depression and bad moods.   
      
      
      
   3. To Cover Up Inferiority Feelings. (LOL)   
      
   The popular definition of narcissism says that, "behind the mask of   
   ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem (inferiority)." And   
   that is completely true. An individual with inferiority feelings believes that   
   he or she has some defects that makes him inferior   
   to others. These defects can be real or imagined.   
      
   (Oh, they're real, all right. Dwarfism?)   
      
   Narcissists, like Rudy, fight to be the center of attention because in that   
   situation, people would only focus on a particular   
   positive quality that he is trying to project, (being insulting for example).   
   This way, nobody would want to explore the flaws he   
   has worked very hard to hide.   
      
   Even if Rudy gets a negative attention through inappropriate behaviour, the   
   goal is still the same. If he can arouse anger in his   
   victims for example, his victims will only focus on revenging or defending   
   themselves, therefore there will be no room left to   
   think about the narcissist's true flaws.   
      
      
      
   4. He Feels Ignored. (ding ding ding ding... we have a winner!)   
      
   Feeling invisible is one of Rudy's worst fears.   
      
   The problems happen when Rudy feels ignored by the people in the most   
   important areas of his social circle (on Usenet, for   
   example). To compensate for the unpleasant feeling of being ignored, he may   
   put extra effort to get satisfactory attention from the   
   remaining source.   
      
   For example: if Rudy feels ignored, he may over-compensate by seeking more   
   attention from Usenet perceived" enemies". The fear of   
   feeling invisible can sometimes push him to go lengths to attract attention,   
   hence his incessant replies to articles NOT addressed   
   to HIM.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)