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   "garth2k5"  wrote in message   
   news:ed222ee1-677b-4846-bb0d-bff463c7bd4c@u7g2000yqm.googlegroups.com...   
   > On 9 Nov, 10:12, "Hercule Platini"  wrote:   
   >> "Starbugaboo"  wrote in message   
   >>   
   >> news:4ACE6367.184C@nowhere.com...   
   >>   
   >> > Last post was September 26th by Garth just to say he hadn't posted in a   
   >> > month. I think this group has finally died. Very sad.   
   >>   
   >> Yes, but it was pretty incredibly brave about it.   
   >>   
   >> --   
   >> Hercule Platini   
   >>   
   >> "And it's had tons and tons of girlfriends."   
   >   
   > indeed.   
   >   
   > Garth - epic fail = realising your latest crush is only 18. and you're   
   > 34. :(   
      
      
   18 is an adult, it is not like you are kiddy fiddling or anything, when I   
   was in my early thirties I was living with a seventeen year old, though i   
   didnt know she was only seventeen at the time, she swore blind she was 18   
   and I didn't find out her real age until I met her dad six months after she   
   moved in, by then I was already hooked. My point is some late teens women   
   actually prefer the maturity, stability and experience of a much older male.   
   Dont forget that in general terms young women are often more mature than   
   young males of the same age thus they often find them irritating. The   
   maturity levels dont start to balance out until the early twenties.   
      
      
   Mate some of this may come across as sympathy, it is not intended that way   
   but you are essentially a decent person who is essentially talking himself   
   out of a decent life. I can either tease you for it or can make an attempt   
   to help, and as you give the impression of being a fundamentally decent   
   person I choose the latter   
   You are of course free to take my advice or ignore it as you see fit, if you   
   would like to see if I can help but prefer to do so less publicly then you   
   should feel free to email, I am now a professional youth worker which means   
   I have a legal obligation to respect confidential information. A few things   
   I will offer publicly are below   
      
   I don't know what you look like and frankly it is not relevant what is   
   letting you down is your self confidence level, I admit I have never met you   
   in real life but you come across as caring, considerate and compassionate   
   and for many women those are very weighty factors. If it turns out a   
   particular woman is interested in looks as her only real priority then this   
   is a good thing, while it may feel bad within the moment, as it means you   
   have saved yourself the trouble of a woman who is not worth having anyway.   
      
   I know it can be hard when you lack confidence in yourself but think of   
   this, the worst that can happen is they tell you to F off, by 34 i'd be   
   surprised if you haven't been told that so many times that you  realise how   
   small a deal that actually is in big picture terms. Consider also that most   
   women also want companionship, commitment and decent sex just as much as you   
   (dont worry about it if you are lacking in the latter satisfying a woman is   
   actually so ridiculously easy that it is beyond belief how many men find it   
   difficult, I and others can give advice in that area when you get to that   
   point). If you walk into a bar with 100 women and ask each of them straight   
   out "wanna fuck" then you will get 98-99 responses varing between a drink in   
   the face and a punch in the mouth, but you know what even if you look like   
   Charles Mansons love child with a Yeti you are going to get one yes (NB at   
   your current self confidence level I am not recomending you actually do that   
   as you will not be able to get past the first couple of rejections before   
   you give up causing even worse confidence levels than you have  now). True   
   she may look like the Yeti's grandmother but so what in the end looks are   
   pretty transitory things and there are about 10 ^ infinity things more   
   important than them in choosing a partner.   
      
   As I said if you would like to discuss this further you are welcome to   
   email, if it takes me a day or two to respond please dont take it   
   personally, I am a youth worker working with high support teens and a slow   
   response simply means im conducting an intensive support session with a   
   client. Where do I get the arrogance to make such an offer?, what makes me   
   think i can help?. Im not saying I definately can but I am willing to try   
   and I have done this before for others with a reasonably high success rate,   
   eg a friend in another group, who shall remain completely annonymous, was a   
   43 year old virgin when he took me up on a similar offer a few years back,   
   he is now happily married with his second child on the way. Incidentally in   
   case you are wondering if i'm pulling some dating scam, not only am I not   
   asking you for any money (or any other compensatory reward for that matter)   
   I will flat out refuse it as the only reward i am interested in is the   
   personal knowledge that I have helped a friendly aquaintance who I consider   
   a good person and for whom I actually have quite a bit of respect to get   
   himself the life I think he deserves.   
      
   Cheers   
   Fozzi   
      
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