From: cblais1@shaw.ca
Lee - So sorry to hear of your loss! Loss by suicide is one of the saddest
and most difficult ways to lose someone in our lives - take care of yourself
and make sure that you are with people who care about you and whom you can
talk with - If I can do anything please let me know
Claire
"Dangerous" wrote in message
news:Z_FTe.218653$9A2.54793@edtnps89...
> Lee, I was touched with your email and your support and
> friendship to your lost friend.
> Your email is a eulogy in itself. I knew that you were a person
> of substance and once a friend a friend for life.
> May the angels watch over you and your friend .
>
> ......Know that she has finally found peace and is watching
> over you and her family.........
>
> --
> Dora
> Dangerous with Attitude
>
> I do it cause I can
> "Lee H." wrote in message
> news:la2uh11bfh3drbqslgecbej99311docq5n@4ax.com...
> > Just about ten years ago, my Doctor recommended that I see a Massage
> > therapist. He thought that such treatment might overcome some problems
> > I had been having. He specified exactly who I was to see, so I made an
> > appointment. I was very apprehensive, what with me being a very
> > private, conservative and shy person--definitely not the touchy-feely
> > type. The lady's name was A______ W______, and she scared me to death!
> > The treatment really did make me feel better and, because it was covered
> > under my medical plan, I kept up regular appointments for some months.
> > It took me quite a while to relax with her, but she was so very good at
> > what she did I kept going back. I really didn't like her, and I found
> > out afterwards she didn't like me much either, but I kept going and we
> > kept talking and, after a year or so, when she moved to Vancouver we
> > parted as friends.
> >
> > After a year or more of adventuring, she returned to Kamloops and we
> > connected again and resumed our friendship. She called me when she
> > needed help with stuff around the home and office. We spent a lot of
> > time together, laughing and talking as friends do. Unfortunately, she
> > was best described as "Addicted to falling in love" and could not
> > maintain a relationship for any length of time, not even with her two
> > children from whom she was estranged. She was so proud of them both and
> > never hesitated to show pictures of them, but couldn't handle being with
> > them for more than an hour. The thing about her was: She was the type
> > of person who could and did carve her way through a number of men but
> > often, when it was over, they not only would still remain friends but
> > amazingly enough become friendly with each other! They were people who
> > had shared a loving, mystical experience. She was special! I was the
> > one she would phone in the middle of the night when things were falling
> > apart. If she was lonely and perhaps drank a little too much wine, I
> > was the one who kept her out of trouble. I was the one she trusted, and
> > we would often talk for hours, discussing everything with no limits or
> > taboos--the way really close friends do. I knew more about her and she
> > about me than possibly anyone else in our lives. When I became ill, she
> > kept in constant contact, spent a lot of her own money on diet
> > supplements and other health food products for me. She was a deeply
> > spiritual person and when she cared about you there was no doubt. Over
> > the years, she invested a considerable amount of her time, energy and
> > her heart in me. I came to consider her my best friend and I loved her
> > as deeply as anyone could. I laid myself at her feet--I would do
> > anything for her and she never abused the privilege. I lived for when
> > she would phone me and, after she lost her voice, the first thing I
> > would look for in the morning was an email from her.
> >
> > Over the last few months she was becoming very agitated. Her vocal
> > problems were stressing her out (the specialists could find nothing
> > wrong), she and the love of her life, W__, were moving to Fort Langley
> > where she was setting up a new practice.
> > Her spiritual beliefs were becoming stronger, but more
> > off-the-wall--there were quite a few raised eyebrows when she was
> > talking. She became controlling and obsessive, becoming physically ill
> > when she felt she had lost control over things that you or I wouldn't
> > notice. She literally did not hear what she didn't want to hear and she
> > was living her life in her mind, ignoring reality. Last Saturday, W___
> > and I, having finished doing a roof on his rental property were
> > discussing over dinner her increasing irrationality and we were
> > wondering where it would end up and what we might be able to do. Living
> > with her was stressing him out but he loved her too much to leave. He
> > left Kamloops Sunday morning as he had to be in Whistler Sunday night
> > for three days of work. She was not at home when he went through Fort
> > Langley.
> >
> > Some time on Monday, August 29 (my birthday!), this lovely, talented,
> > beautiful, caring lady took her own life. She did it in the meticulous,
> > well-planned and organised way she did most things, leaving letters to
> > her kids, writing her own (very revealing) eulogy and many pages of
> > instructions on how to wind up her affairs. It's all so obvious now
> > that she had been planning it for some time. The number of people who
> > are devastated and shocked is incredible. If only more of us had talked
> > to each other....
> >
> > If only!
> >
> > I will forever miss the best friend I ever had!
> >
> >
> > Lee H., in no-longer-quite-so-beautiful Kamloops, British Columbia,
> > Canada
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
>
>
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