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|    Dangerous to Blais"    |
|    Re: Lost Our Dad    |
|    22 Apr 07 04:36:15    |
   
   From: dangerous@telus.net   
      
   Thanks Clarie....house is sold now...we are starting tomorrow looking at   
   homes...   
   and I started packing already...Military style...LOL   
      
   --   
   Dora   
   Dangerous with Attitude   
      
   I do it cause I can   
   "Claire (Mason) Blais" wrote in message   
   news:sNVVh.99485$6m4.89105@pd7urf1no...   
   > Oh - well Cloverdale looks pretty nice also! All the best!   
   >   
   >   
   > "Dangerous" wrote in message   
   > news:QOLVh.8229$VF5.4369@edtnps82...   
   >> We may....we are actually looking in Cloverdale which borders langley...   
   >> We have had 3 subjects removed and are just waiting on one more subject.   
   >>   
   >>   
   >> --   
   >> Dora   
   >> Dangerous with Attitude   
   >>   
   >> I do it cause I can   
   >> "Claire (Mason) Blais" wrote in message   
   >> news:y7zVh.93912$DE1.42380@pd7urf2no...   
   >> > Thanks Dora - I see you're in the middle of moving - I sure don't envy   
   > you   
   >> > that - drop me a line when you get a chance with your new addy and   
   > phone -   
   >> > are you planning on staying in the Langley area? It's pretty there!   
   >> >   
   >> > Claire   
   >> >   
   >> > "Dangerous" wrote in message   
   >> > news:W%qVh.6341$j%5.5304@edtnps90...   
   >> >> Claire so sorry to hear of your loss.....   
   >> >>   
   >> >> My dad had a partial pension (served 22 years).   
   >> >> Still miss him....and so many times I have questions for   
   >> >> him about life during his Military career...   
   >> >>   
   >> >> I don't know anything about DVA benefits. My dad   
   >> >> had none....I still have all the papers from his place...   
   >> >> I should look through them again.   
   >> >>   
   >> >> And once again Claire.....my condolences...   
   >> >>   
   >> >> (((hugs)))   
   >> >>   
   >> >> --   
   >> >> Dora   
   >> >> Dangerous with Attitude   
   >> >>   
   >> >> I do it cause I can   
   >> >> "Claire (Mason) Blais" wrote in message   
   >> >> news:907Uh.72671$DE1.50640@pd7urf2no...   
   >> >> > Haven't posted for quite a while - we lost our Dad on March 29/07 -   
   >> > after   
   >> >> > a   
   >> >> > long 5 months in hospital. As much as we were relieved that he was   
   >> > finally   
   >> >> > "home" where he kept asking to be especially in the last month - we   
   >> >> > miss   
   >> >> > him   
   >> >> > very much and haven't quite come to grips yet with the fact that we   
   >> > won't   
   >> >> > be   
   >> >> > seeing him again in this life.   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > Sometime when I'm feeling a bit stronger - remind me to post about   
   > the   
   >> >> > pitfalls of not pre-planning/pre-paying for your funeral - Whew what   
   > an   
   >> >> > experience! And the expense was astronomical for what we got - did   
   > most   
   >> > of   
   >> >> > it ourselves (catharsis factors).   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > Dad never did qualify for any DVA benefits although he served in   
   >> >> > both   
   >> > WWII   
   >> >> > with the army and for 10 years during peacetime in the airforce -   
   > which   
   >> >> > would have helped his wife with the costs of caring for him in the   
   > last   
   >> >> > couple of year and ultimately with the funeral. In the end the   
   >> > contractor   
   >> >> > who does the hearing tests for DVA wouldn't come and complete the   
   > tests   
   >> > as   
   >> >> > Dad had an infection (was not highly contagious- he wasn't in   
   >> >> > isolation)and   
   >> >> > this would have been the easiest way for him to qualify. Dad put off   
   >> >> > for   
   >> >> > years applying for any DVA benefits - he managed nicely he said, on   
   > his   
   >> >> > Fed   
   >> >> > Govt Pension and didn't need the small amount of money he would have   
   >> > been   
   >> >> > able to get. However that said - the medical benefits and end of   
   > life   
   >> >> > benefits would have been very helpful.   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > If any of you have parents who would qualify but are reluctant to go   
   >> >> > through   
   >> >> > the process please encourage them on - the medical stuff - is far   
   >> >> > and   
   >> >> > above   
   >> >> > whatever a person can get from a normal health care provider (they   
   > help   
   >> >> > with   
   >> >> > transport costs to and from medical appointments and help with   
   > special   
   >> >> > equipment needed to maintain independance etc.) and they cover the   
   > full   
   >> >> > cost   
   >> >> > of the funeral if you are in receipt of a pension from them. This   
   >> > leaves   
   >> >> > the one(s) behind with a little more to manage on.   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > Dad didn't qualify for last post fund either (too much cash in the   
   >> >> > bank)   
   >> >> > but   
   >> >> > only by a bit and it's a qualify or don't scenario - so if you don't   
   >> >> > there's   
   >> >> > no help - not a sliding scale - Last Post is not that much money   
   >> >> > ($3,600-max) but every little bit would help someone.   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > Neither DVA or Last Post are very user friendly systems so be   
   > prepared   
   >> > to   
   >> >> > deal with "big business" - but that said it's worth the effort.   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > Someone on the group posted years ago about where a person could   
   > apply   
   >> > to   
   >> >> > get a copy of a person's military records once they were deceased -   
   > any   
   >> >> > one   
   >> >> > remember where - my sibs are I are thinking that we would like to   
   >> >> > get   
   > a   
   >> >> > copy   
   >> >> > of our Dad's to put with the family history stuff.   
   >> >> >   
   >> >> > Thanks   
   >> >> > Claire   
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