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   Magnificent Rich Rudy - Only An Undeserv   
   21 Nov 25 13:06:59   
   
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   From: katt@gmail.com   
      
   Narcissists often deny or deflect criticism, and it's not uncommon for them to   
   deny things about themselves, even when faced with evidence to the contrary.   
      
   There are several reasons for this behavior:   
      
   Defense mechanism: Denial is a defense mechanism that helps narcissists   
   protect their self-image and avoid feelings of shame, guilt, or   
   vulnerability. By denying any negative aspects of themselves, they can   
   maintain their grandiose self-image.   
      
   (it's a sickness)   
      
   Lack of self-awareness: Narcissists often have a limited ability to reflect on   
   their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They may genuinely believe that   
   they are not flawed or that their behavior is justified.   
      
   Gaslighting: Narcissists may deny things to manipulate others and make them   
   doubt their own perceptions or memories. This can be a way to control the   
   narrative and maintain power over others.   
      
   Fear of vulnerability: Narcissists often struggle with vulnerability and   
   intimacy. By denying any flaws or weaknesses, they can avoid feeling   
   vulnerable or exposed.   
      
   Need for control: Narcissists often need to feel in control and maintain a   
   sense of power over others. By denying criticism or negative feedback, they   
   can assert their control and dominance.   
      
   In the case of your acquaintance, it's possible that they are using denial as   
   a way to cope with the discomfort of hearing negative feedback or criticism.   
   By talking about themselves in a positive light, they may be attempting to:   
      
   Reassert their self-image: By focusing on their positive qualities, they can   
   reaffirm their self-image and maintain a sense of self-worth.   
      
   Distract from criticism: By dominating the conversation with positive self-   
   talk, they can shift the focus away from criticism or negative feedback.   
      
   Avoid accountability: By denying any problems or flaws, they can avoid taking   
   responsibility for their actions or behaviors.   
      
   It's essential to remember that dealing with a narcissist can be challenging   
   and emotionally draining. If you're concerned about this person's behavior or   
   its impact on you or others, consider:   
      
   Setting boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and communicate your needs and   
   expectations.   
   Seeking support: Talk to trusted friends, family, or a therapist about your   
   experiences and feelings.   
   Maintaining emotional distance: Be cautious about getting too close or   
   emotionally invested in this person's life.   
      
   Keep in mind that you can't change or fix a narcissist; your efforts are   
   better spent on taking care of yourself and setting healthy boundaries.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)   

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