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   From: katt@gmail.com   
      
   AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis,   
   keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to the amusement of all.   
      
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   On Thu, 20 Nov 2025 10:02:02 -0800,  Rudy Canoza says...   
      
   > Those filthy ugly obscene memorials to traitors are not history.   
      
   These filthy ugly obscene traitors?   
      
   George Washington   
      
   Thomas Jefferson   
      
   James Madison   
      
   James Monroe   
      
   Benjamin Franklin   
      
   John Hancock   
      
   Patrick Henry   
      
   George Mason   
      
      
   Why does Rudy hate everything?   
      
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   Fear of "The Other"   
      
   According to A.J. Marsden, assistant professor of psychology and human   
   services at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida, one reason Rudy hates is   
   because he fears things that are different from himself.   
      
   Behavioral researcher Patrick Wanis, cites the in-group out-group theory,   
   which posits that when Rudy feels threatened by perceived outsiders, he   
   instinctively turns toward our in-group-those with whom Rudy identifies as a   
   survival mechanism.   
      
   Wanis explains, "Hatred is driven by two key emotions of love and aggresssion:   
   One love for the in-group-the group that is favored; and two, aggression for   
   the out-group-the group that has been deemed as being different, dangerous,   
   and a threat to the in-group."   
      
   Fear of Himself   
      
   According to Washington, D.C., clinical psychologist Dana Harron, the things   
   Rudy hates about others, are the things that he fears within himself. She   
   suggests thinking about the targeted group or person as a movie screen onto   
   which Rudy projects unwanted parts of the self. The idea is, "I'm not   
   terrible; you are."   
      
   This phenomenon is known as projection, a term coined by Freud to describe our   
   tendency to reject what Rudy doesn't like about himself. Psychologist Brad   
   Reedy further describes projection as Rudy's need to be good, which causes him   
   to project "badness" outward and attack it:   
      
   "Rudy developed this method to survive, for any 'badness' in him puts him at   
   risk for being rejected and alone. So, Rudy represses the things that he   
   thinks are bad (what others told him or suggested to him that was unlovable   
   and morally reprehensible) - and Rudy employs hate and judgment towards   
   others.   
      
   Rudy thinks that is how one rids himself of undesirable traits, but this   
   method only perpetuates repression which leads to many mental health issues.   
      
   BINGO!   
      
   Lack of Self-compassion   
      
   The antidote to hate is compassion - for others as well as ourselves. Self-   
   compassion means that Rudy accept his whole self. "If Rudy finds part of   
   himself unacceptable, he tends to attack others in order to defend against the   
   threat," says Reedy.   
      
   "If Rudy is okay with himself, he see others' behaviors as 'about them' and   
   can respond with compassion. If I kept hate in my heart for [another], I would   
   have to hate myself as well. It is only when Rudy learns to hold himself with   
   compassion that Rudy may be able to demonstrate it toward others."   
      
   It fills a void   
      
   Psychologist Bernard Golden, author of Overcoming Destructive Anger:   
   Strategies That Work, believes that when hate involves participation in a   
   group (like Usenet), it may help foster a sense of connection and camaraderie   
   that fills a void in one's identity. He describes hatred of individuals or   
   groups as a way of distracting oneself from the more challenging and anxiety-   
   provoking task of creating one's own identity:   
      
   (BINGO! coming up)   
      
   "Acts of hate are attempts to distract oneself from feelings such as   
   helplessness, powerlessness, injustice, inadequacy and shame. Hate is grounded   
   in some sense of perceived threat. It is an attitude that can give rise to   
   hostility and aggression toward individuals or groups. Like much of anger, it   
   is a reaction to and distraction from some form of inner pain. The individual   
   consumed by hate may believe that the only way to regain some sense of power   
   over his or her pain is to preemptively strike out at others. In this context,   
   each moment of hate is a temporary reprieve from inner suffering."   
      
   BINGO!   
      
   Societal and Cultural Factors   
      
   The answer to why Rudy hates, according to Silvia Dutchevici, LCSW, president   
   and founder of the Critical Therapy Center, lies not only in our psychological   
   makeup or family history, but also in our cultural and political history.   
   "Rudy lives in a war culture that promotes violence, in which competition is a   
   way of life," she says.   
      
   "Rudy fears connecting because it requires us to reveal something about   
   himself. Rudy was taught to hate the enemy - meaning anyone different than us   
   - which leaves little room for vulnerability and an exploration of hate   
   through empathic discourse and understanding. In our current society, one is   
   more ready to fight than to resolve conflict. Peace is seldom the option."   
      
   What Can Rudy Do?   
      
   Hatred has to be learned, Golden says: "Rudy was born with the capacity for   
   aggression as well as compassion. Which tendencies Rudy embraces requires   
   mindful choice by individuals, families, communities and our culture in   
   general. The key to overcoming hate is education: at home, in schools, and in   
   the community."   
      
   According to Dutchevici, facing the fear of being vulnerable and utterly human   
   is what allows us to connect, to feel, and ultimately, to love. She suggests   
   creating "cracks in the system." These cracks can be as simple as connecting   
   to your neighbor, talking with a friend, starting a protest, or even going to   
   therapy and connecting with an 'Other.' It is through these acts that one can   
   understand hate and love."   
      
   In other words, compassion towards others is the true context that heals.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)