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 Message 1317 
 Damon A. Getsman to All 
 Updates on intermittently transient livi 
 31 Jan 15 16:07:58 
 
    Oh god, where to start.
    I guess I covered most of the disaster that's hit lately in international
chat, so I'll just move right on to where I'm at with my son right now.
    Despite being amazingly resilient for everything that he's been through, it
seems like the last two years of intermittent homelessness are finally starting
to have a behavior effect upon him.  Things first started getting this way a
year ago, in Minot, ND (actually a little over a year ago, now), when we were
staying with my sister for a bit.  The primary reason for this, I think, was
not so much isolation and transition (he knew his cousins well and they loved
spending time with him), but the fact that they were raised on the 'electronic
teat', if you will.  That is, they spent all of their time, 95% of the days,
playing video games and eating junk food and nothing else.  Unfortunately, my
ability in Minot, ND, to get him out to do anything other than this was pretty
limited...  :P
    Things got better for awhile, when I was with my fiancee, as spring hit. 
He had to change schools _during that one school year_ four times, so that
certainly didn't help anything.  However, he met another bi-racial kid that
lived just one apartment down from us at his school.  So although he got a few
more videogames than I would like, he really did spend a huge amount of times
with his friend and other friends from the school outside playing.  However he
suffered a bit of verbal abuse, and definitely neglect, from my fiancee when I
was working, which I later found out about.
    Since I've moved here, things have gone downhill a bit.  There were
starting to be some behavioral changes, at this point, due to the 'addictive'
nature of video games, and how they activate the same brain instant-reward
pathways as any sort of stimulant drug does.  You can tell.  :|  You could tell
last year, but it wasn't even really a problem yet.
    The main problem in this area is the fact that no other parents seem to
give much of a shit about getting their children out to play with others here. 
'Helicopter parenting' is in full effect.

    My son actually needs to use the computer here for a little bit, so I'm
going to send this out right now so that I don't lose it if there's a BBS crash
(they've started up again since I enabled Synchronet's SSH server again for my
users' security).  I'll define 'helicopter parenting' (if it isn't
self-evident), and continue where I left off in a little while here.

    -Damo
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