-=> Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 06-May-2015 17:00 <=-

 NB>> If corporate people were also wondering, then perhaps there will be
 NB>> others passing comments up the line.  I suspect that you weren't the
 NB>> only one being caught in the sloppiness...  :/
 NB>> Probably should send that email, if you haven't already... it certainly
 NB>> couldn't hurt, especially since you've already quit...  Maybe they'll
 NB>> offer you a job at their other location locally...
 DAG> Oh I know that I wasn't the only one caught up in it.  There were
 DAG> probably somewhere between a quarter & half dozen people that got
 DAG> caught up in the muck while I was still there.  I suspect it's only
 DAG> gotten worse.  I will try to get that email done today, though, now
 DAG> that I think a little more on it (since my last message)... 

You must have been anticipating my response to the previous message.  ;)

 DAG> It was a
 DAG> pretty good place that I liked the philosophy of, maybe the other
 DAG> location would be a lot better.  Wouldn't hurt to try it out, and it'd
 DAG> be nice to be getting pay for my 'social' hours, as it were.  :) 

If they don't offer, or even that job doesn't pan out, there is still
volunteering... if you were to volunteer at, say, a rescue mission, you
might also gain/keep a healthy perspective on your own situation... ;)

 NB>> Just have to stand firm and keep him on track to do it himself except
 NB>> when he really does need the extra hand up...  :)
 NB>> That's a good deal all around...  :)  They'll be less likely to do it
 NB>> for him, more likely to talk him through things so he really does learn
 NB>> from doing his homework...  and yes, having it out of the way frees him
 NB>> to do his own thing when he gets home...  :)
 DAG> Yeah he's just really good at trying to make it seem like he can't
 DAG> do it and throwing up his hands when I'm around.  That doesn't mean I
 DAG> always do it for him, but he just seems to think that he can do that
 DAG> stuff around me, where when it's anybody else around he keeps on
 DAG> pushing and trying on his own instead of giving in to his frustration. 
 DAG> I've known other kids that were that way; just wish I could identify
 DAG> what I'm doing that makes him think that's alright.  I've not hauled
 DAG> his bundle out of the fire that often, I don't think... 

Kids in general tend to be masters at manipulation... give in once, and
they'll try to make it happen again...  one just has to stand firm...
every time... ;)  And if one does appear to be giving in, one should
explain why and in what way(s) this help is different from just doing it
for them...  ;)  He knows that you want him to look good as well as do
well... so you may have to (seemingly continually) explain to him the
difference, and how his doing it well on his own is much better all
around, at least in the long run...  Not that he'll act like he gets it,
but eventually it sinks in... :)

 NB>> At least neither of us needs to feel guilty if a message doesn't get
 NB>> answered immediately..   
 DAG> Heh.  People that don't understand that with me often get left by
 DAG> the wayside when something broadsides me in life.  I wish I could get
 DAG> to a point where my load-shedding pile doesn't dictate things so much
 DAG> for me, but if I can only accomplish a certain amount every day, and
 DAG> for as long as that situation may last, I've got to put priorities in
 DAG> place or things will end up messy really quick.  :P

And priorities can shift, as pressing things come into play.  Currently,
I've been spending a fair bit of time with my mom in the hospital.. She
normally lives with one of my sisters, and there's another sister
besides me here somewhat locally, so all of us have been spending a lot
of time, trying to keep one of us (or a trusted friend) there around the
clock.  :)  Doesn't help my schedule any that the hospital is almost an
hour away from home for me, either... ;)  She is going home this
afternoon, so things will mitigate slightly, since there will be more
options for coverage once she's back home.  :)  Anyway... message
writing had to be relegated to bits of time found amongst the
leftovers...  

 NB>> Just keep plugging away... and eventually it all falls into place... ;)
 NB>> At least that's my philosophy...  ;)
 DAG> Yep, I'm trying to get up the motivation points to start chipping on
 DAG> some large blocks that are holding me up here right now.  Gonna try to
 DAG> get my blood flowing a little bit first and see if that helps, since I
 DAG> was having issues concentrating earlier.  Viva la mountain of crap!

Good luck... ;)   Keep plugging away... ;)

ttyl        neb

... "Careful, we don't want to learn from this." - Calvin

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