Re: Summer plans  was: shinies and sickies  was: camping
  By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Jun 27 2015 19:44:06

 NB> Now that's a major bummer...  and the construction itself makes it not
 NB> so safe a place to be unattended, even in the parts not actually under
 NB> construction... 

  Yeah I feel pretty terrible about how much he's been inside lately. 
Especially since my Aikido fund got pirated by somebody that had a banking
error who was depositing the checks that are made out to him but go to both of
us.  :|

 DAG>> adults and crackheads to let my kid free range at.  So I'm trying
 NB> Those other parks probably wouldn't likely have a lot of other kids to
 NB> play with, either...  

  Yeah, those ones are off limits.  I've hung out there too much when I've been
done with jogging or just doing some pullups or something are there are very
violent and stabbity, threatening people that come there a lot.  Unfortunately
that option is out as well.  I'm still looking for places, but my range is
getting considerably farther out and making anything except vehicle travel to
these places impossible.  I need a new laptop; having my one with a good
battery isn't going to help much now that I realized that the wireless is out
on it as well.  At least if I'm going to work while he's doing his frolicking.

 NB> I remember going to a small neighborhood library when we lived in PA...
 NB> there wasn't a kids section per se, but there was an area where the
 NB> kids' books were all kept together... I could walk there by myself (we
 NB> moved there when I was going into 6th grade), and it was a preferred
 NB> hangout..  ;)

  That was really what I was hoping for when I headed to the local branch here.
Unfortunately, the local branches are miniscule, and the main location that
does have all of that stuff that I'd like to take him to is buried in the inner
city.  I mean, I guess we could take the bus once in awhile and stuff, but
getting me to want to go into the inner city takes elephant tranquilizers or
something.  I fear and avoid it.

 NB> A working portable computer might be just the thing... ;)  Keep you both
 NB> from being caged in too tightly... :)   But the point I was trying to
 NB> make is that some things just can't be helped, and it doesn't hurt the
 NB> kid to be deprived of what he thinks (or even you think) he needs...
 NB> particularly when it is probably short-term...  Best way to really make
 NB> it up to the kid, so to speak, is to get the situation settled better,
 NB> even if it takes longer than one hopes for...  :)

  Yeah.  I'm going to have to wait until I get repaid the damn near (if not
over $1000) that's rightfully owed to me for my employment right now,
unfortunately.  I had a lot of plans for that stuff.  This mistake that
occurred was avoidable, too.  A second burn from the same fire for this person,
if you will.  I was really not too happy about it, nor the imposed quarantine
that has resulted.
  Good things to note about my son, though.  I'm trying to get out of this as
fast as I can.  Before the financial debaucle happened, I thought I was getting
over a quarter, if not closer to a third, of the amount that I want to have
before I can start considering relocating to a better location.  It happened
quick.  Should happen even quicker when I'm making the same wages and getting
repaid for that, I suppose.

 NB> For sure it gets easier when you have a more settled environment...  :) 
 NB> But behaviors can still be regulated, even when things are crowded and
 NB> unsettled... A lot of the training is probably going to be on dealing
 NB> with the situation as it is, and learning to self-manage... and praise
 NB> when he copes well with things will help as much or more than the
 NB> consequences of bad behavior... :)

  I think that I have more work in being engaged with him and figuring out some
creative things than he does ahead of him there.  I've failed at that a little
bit lately.  Something's taken the wind out of my sails a bit, and
unfortunately I've allowed that to leave him on the playstation way too much. 
Time to correct that error and provide something-- anything-- else, even if
it's just neighborhood exploration walks and more runs with me.  That's part of
it, my health got foul for a couple of days, so I haven't been able to go on my
normal runs and routines that keep me grounded.  Plus I take Deschain along on
his bike (now that he can't keep up running any more) when I'm going for runs
and the like.  Tomorrow morning I'm going to make sure that I get up and start
doing all of that again, even if I have to make some emergency toilet breaks
along the way or whatever.  Pardon my level of detail.
  Anyway, more soon.  I'm trying to dig myself out of this pit that I've ended
up in; it's nearing some of the bipolar low territories that I'm familiar with
from not being medicated.  :P  Getting to all of the correspondence is an
integral part of this, at this point, I believe.
  Enough about my troubles.  ;)

  -D
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