Re: Daughter Advice
  By: Ruben Figueroa to Steve Wolf on Sun Apr 10 2016 08:56 am

 SW>> seen each other since she was 8 years old. I'm finding myself in
 SW>> "Un-Charted Waters". Do I act like her father? A friend? Her uncle?


 RF> 1. You have not been involved in her life as her dad, but you are
 RF> genetically.
 RF> 2. Since you haven't been, then talk to her as another adult
 RF> 3. Only offer guidance, advice and opinions when she asks is receptive to
 RF> that and you will know because she will prompt you
 RF> 4. Be there for here as any adult with someone they care about and make
 RF> sure to listen and refrain from trying to fix anything
 RF> 5. Treat her like a new friend that you want to be on better terms with

 RF> Last of all do not set any rules, but you can set boundaries (what/how you
 RF> live your life and what you will or definitely will not do)

 RF> Don't know if this is any good. I imagine over time with the development
 RF> of your relationship with her you can development a structure of father
 RF> and daughter wherein she recoginizes you as such. But she has to
 RF> acknowledge that role, you can't impose it.

 RF> Best wishes.


Excellent advice! Thanks very much!

Steve
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