-=> Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Nancy Backus on 04-21-16  09:40 <=-

 NB>> Hi, Ruben... :)  Nice to see that you've been lurking here, too... :) 
 NB>> I always did think there were more people around than usually pipe
 NB>> up.... ;)

 RF> I know a little something about raising daughters.  The first
 RF> daughter, her mother handled everything and I was clueless.  Sorry to
 RF> say my involvement as very little, but in her adulthood we have become
 RF> close in our father daughter relationship.

I know less about daughters in particular, having only had a son... but
as the oldest of 8 siblings (5 younger sisters), I know something about
raising kids in general... and a little about girls... ;)

 RF> The second daughter, I was divorced from the first daughter's mom, is
 RF> from a 2nd marriage.  I was more intensely invovled for a number of
 RF> reasons, first I was no longer building a career and establising my
 RF> earnings.  I married a very young woman and I was much older (22 yrs)
 RF> and we had a daughter, Sarah. 
 RF> Sarah's mom passed away when she was 6 years old and she is now 17
 RF> going on 18 this August.  So I was intrinsically involved in her
 RF> upbringing.  Many things I found out how little I knew about little
 RF> girls, girls maturing (puberty) girls and their hearts, and I could go
 RF> on and on.  I did have some help from my eldest daughter, that's when
 RF> our relationship began to develop. 

That makes sense.... and it was good that your older daughter could and
was willing to help... ;)

 RF> Now Sarah is a Senior, ready to graduate, driving and ready to go to
 RF> college to start her life and so I am entering into another phase with
 RF> her, her independence of dad is lessening more and more.  Her love is
 RF> strong, I can see it and feel it but she no longer my little girl. 
 RF> Kind of hard to take but understandable.  I am 65 if you are wondering,
 RF> she was born when I was 47. 

They do grow up...  and have their own lives... ;)  My son is 42... The
relationship changes, but still can be a strong and good one... ours
is... :)

 RF> So the advice I gave was based on both of those experiences and my
 RF> daughters thing and respond.  I found out it is very important that I
 RF> stop what doing and concentrate what they are wanting my attention.  It
 RF> tells them they are always first and of utmost importance to me, which
 RF> they are. 

You've learned very well from your daughters....  :)  And I'm sure that
you've also been a good influence in their lives...  :)

 RF> Anyways Sarah is close to graduation and she has one more report card
 RF> to show me from High School.  I guess I was feeling a little something.
 RF> I am so proud of her.  Don't know how she turned out to be such a good
 RF> person.  So much like her mom who showed me many things even as young
 RF> as she was. 

She obviously has some of each of you in her... :)  Is she going on to
college...?  Or does she have other plans....

 RF> Well see you later Nancy.  Have a good day.

Sorry it took so long to answer, I've been caught up in Real Life with a
vengeance the last couple of weeks...  :)  Hopefully I'll be able to
catch up soon, and then stay on top of things for a while... ;)

ttyl      neb

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