From: theise@panix.com
On Thu, 19 Feb 2026 11:05:37 -0600,
sticks wrote:
> On 2/13/2026 10:26 AM, Ted Heise wrote:
> > I always laughed when we drove by the pair of stores along
> > I-70 somewhere in western Indiana (or Eastern Ohio?): one was
> > a candle store, and the other a toy train store. Perfect for
> > couples!
>
> In my younger days, my girl would always want to go to this
> huge shopping mall outside Chicago, Woodfield Mall. She would
> look around for hours and hours. I of course went right to the
> bar and she came and got me when she was done spending my
> money.
I've often run into other husbands waiting on a bench or other
seating at the mall. These days, I usually just skip the trip and
stay home.
> Unfortunately, my size makes clothes buying a real problem.
> At 6' 6" getting shirts and pants that have the necessary
> length without ending up tent sized is difficult. She has
> found this out the hard way and has had to return many, many
> things. I just wait until she complains enough that I need
> some new things to wear and I finally go. I just hate it.
Oh man, I feel for ya. I'm 6'1" so not small by any means, but
still in a decent range of standard clothing. Last time I bought
pants was like 20 years ago when I'd gotten down to my high school
weight for the first time in forever and was excited to get some
jeans of that size. Of course it's been 19 years since I could
wear them. lol
> > I try to help with some of the cleaning, now that I'm retired.
> > It just feels too patriarchal to expect her to do it all.
> > Guilt I guess.
>
> > We tried a cleaning service for the better part of a year a
> > number of years (decades?) ago. She was dissatisfied with the
> > attention to detail, so we gave up that idea! I'm still
> > satisfied with a lesser degree of cleanliness, so use that as
> > justification for not doing an equal share of cleaning. And
> > of course those periods of time where there's mor "man's work"
> > to be done (yard work, repairs, etc.) I feel pretty well
> > justified in doing less around the house.
>
> She's not as crazy about it as she used to be, but she still
> cleans constantly. Unlike you, I don't suffer from any guilt
> on the matter at all. I let her be able to not work and for 30
> years I provided. She seems to like how we do things, so I
> ain't gonna upset the apple cart. I do all the fixing, outside
> maintenance, and remodeling we do. If she asks me to do
> something, I get it done. Though she might ask me to close a
> cabinet door properly, she just never asks me to clean
> anything.
Sounds like a great arrangement. My wife isn't as obsessed about
cleaning as she used to be, so that helps.
> I gotta admit sometimes I leave a drawer open just slightly
> so she can see it, knowing it drives her nuts.
Oh my, that's funny.
> > Same. When the company fell down on replacing the company car
> > with the same I'd had before, it turned out the Acadia with
> > the full trailering package had a bunch of other "features"
> > (like heated steering wheel and heads up display). When I
> > first encountered them, I kind of rolled my eyes--but as
> > time's passed I've really come to appreciate them.
>
> Going in next week to get her another new Bronco, so I can have
> the one she has now that set up as a TOAD. She said she wants
> it exactly like what she has now. I said not exactly, that it
> has to have at LEAST everything she has now. If we find
> something else she likes, we'll get that too. If that looks
> like I'm buying her cooperation, I won't argue with that.
Oh, that's good too!
My wife's just gotten her cataracts removed. It took some doing
to convince her to get the top of the line lenses. She's pretty
happy about it, so it was so worth it.
--
Ted Heise Gretna, NE, USA
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