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   Dorothy J Heydt to Evelyn C. Leeper   
   Re: MT VOID, 12/12/25 -- Vol. 44, No. 24   
   14 Dec 25 20:48:58   
   
   From: djheydt@kithrup.com   
      
   In article <10hmhv6$12ff7$1@dont-email.me>,   
   Evelyn C. Leeper  wrote:   
   >I've been having problems with pronouns lately. No, not the   
   >third-person pronouns everyone talks about, but first-person   
   >pronouns.   
   >   
   >For example, I want to say that Mark and I went to Second Time   
   >Books for many years and I still go there. Saying "I have gone to   
   >Second Time Books for many years" makes it sound as though it was   
   >just me, yet "Mark and I have gone to Second Time Books for many   
   >years" sounds like he is still going. So I'm stuck with the rather   
   >awkward-sounding "Mark and I went to Second Time Books for many   
   >years and I still go there."   
      
   [Hal Heydt]   
   I suspect this problem may be common where there was a very long   
   association between two people and one of them has died.   
   Parrticulary with a long-married couple.  I have similar issues   
   with respect to Dorothy.  And why not?  We were married for 51   
   years, which is still effectively 2/3 of my life.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)   

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