From: usenet@delete.this.baradel.demon.co.uk   
      
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   , David   
   Friedman  writes   
   >At a slight tangent to the general discussion, I suspect one of the   
   >things going on is the clash between two different attitudes to certain   
   >sorts of interactions.   
   >   
   >Imagine that A and B do not have a close relationship--aren't lovers,   
   >roommates, siblings. A does X, something which, under ordinary social   
   >rules, he is permitted to do. B responds with "don't do that, it hurts   
   >me/makes me unhappy/ ...  ."   
   >   
   Then A shouldn't do it. Full stop. I adore having my hair stroked and   
   combed, my husband loathes it, it actually makes him shudder. Despite   
   the fact that I like the feel of his hair running through my fingers, I   
   respect that fact that he hates it and refrain from upsetting him.   
   >   
   >My guess is that the difference between the two responses has some   
   >correlation with political attitudes, but also has a good deal to do   
   >with personalities, and perhaps the rules of social behavior in the   
   >place where you grew up.   
   >   
   The problem is that things written in an international medium are read   
   by people working to different social rules.   
      
   Helen   
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