Hello Ardith,

On Sun 2038-Nov-07 12:23, Ardith Hinton (1:153/716) wrote to Richard Webb:

JB>  I can find me a wife without a day-gig that can
JB>  tickle the ivories. I just can't imagine what *that*
JB>  eHarmony add would look like. 

RW>  HEy, I wanted a wife with good vocal chops,


AH>          Ah.  I'm reminded there of the adage "Be careful what you
AH> wish for... you might get it!"  If you were performing more often in
AH> those days (and doing less sound work) than you are nowadays having
AH> a spouse who could double as the vocalist in the band may have
AH> seemed convenient.  Unfortunately, however, when people seek a mate
AH> who has certain characteristics they tend to overlook a few details.
AH> If you wanted Ella Fitzgerald & got Beverly Sills your wife may have
AH> felt like a fish out of water no matter how hard both of you tried
AH> to make the relationship work.  A common interest in music can add a
AH> dimension which might not be achievable otherwise.  That's certainly
AH> the case with Dallas & me.  But what worked in our case sounds a lot
AH> more like Daryl's experience with Janice. Neither of us was looking
AH> for a mate at the time we met.  We had both accepted the idea that
AH> nobody would want to marry *us* because we were too weird.  Then in
AH> time we realized there was something quite unique going on between
AH> us.  :-) 

YEah she wanted to expand her horizons, but it just wasn't
working for her.  NOt just in music, but in life itself she
wanted to be a freer individual, but when it came right down to it she
couldn't deal with the uncertainty.  A very
talented lady, excellent musical chops.  HElped me unlearn
some bad habits vocally.  Could sight read anything you put
in front of her, or finger read anyway .
YOu're right too when you state that improvisation wasn't
highly valued in the world she came from >

My present partner doesn't sing at all, in fact, it's best
if she sings solo, as in "so low nobody else can hear her"
>  The rottweiler seems to like her singing, but, no
accounting for the taste of rotties.

Ex wife who was a msuician was also very organized, would
have made an excellent executive secretary or office
manager.  PResent partner could take a few pages from her
book there for sure .

Ex and I fell into a relationship after being introduced by
a mutual friend, we both felt the other complemented who we
were well, but after 6 years the differences became more
important than what we had in common.

IT's funny how I met this one.  I'd moved back to my boyhood home in southern
Iowa to work for a small recording studio.
I'd been running a mail only in central IOwa, had about two
dozen points off my system.  I knew I wanted to continue
being part of fidonet.  But, none of the local bbs systems
were part of the net, so I went full blown Maximus bbs and
started recruiting other boards.

A local sysop who had a fairly popular board was interested
in sharing costs, and bringing in a lot of the echoes which
would be popular locally, but which I really wasn't
interested in carrying.  sOme of my points who lived in the
boonies had migrated with me, and I wanted to make sure the
system was available for them during the small hours of the
morning, or for me when traveling.

But, my buddy was having trouble getting frontdoor and all
the other add ons needed to bring in echomail to his bbs
running properly.

MEanwhile local sysop I was recruiting had promised this
lady he'd restore an old IBM xt with a 20 mb mfm hard disk
to life.  sO he gets in over his head with it, asks if I'd
help, and promises that if i"Ll come over and help with this project he'll
spend the time necessary playing screen reader for old blind man so that we
can get his front door and
tosser scanner going.
sHe came by that evening to pick up her machine, ended up
calling my board a few times, we met for coffee, all went
from there over the next couple of years .



Regards,
           Richard
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