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   "Tang Huyen"  wrote in message   
   news:70695b8c-f4d8-dc25-32db-889e679df3e5@gmail.com...   
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   > In the old days, Jen/dagnabit wrote to Evelyn about Fu,   
   > 3 Dec 2003:   
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   > < What is really at issue here ? Is it really the way Fooey posts,   
   > or is it the reactions that he gets ? These reactions are all   
   > voluntary. Fooey is not over at your house with a gun at your   
   > head forcing you to respond to his posts. You have taken   
   > what he has done personally and the only one who will   
   > derive grief and allow voluntary self-sabotage is you by   
   > taking things personally. Even if someone intends something   
   > towards you personally, you are never forced to accept it as   
   > such. It is not necessarily Fooey's actions that are suspect   
   > here but the motivational reasons behind your and other's   
   > complete and utter willingness to be affected by what he   
   > does. What type of juice are you getting out of this volleying   
   > back and forth of what others do to you ?>>   
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   > Elsewhere, Evelyn herself totally agreed when she wrote to   
   > Pete/cupcake, 25 Jul 2001:   
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   > "I only have the power you give me in your own mind."   
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   > Fu himself said, 25 Sep 2005:   
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   > < some reflection about my own,   
   > and it's always interesting to see   
   > how such things are taken personally.   
   > By umm..."buddhists"...>>   
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   > The morale is that is one does not give power to others over   
   > one's mind and does not take what others say personally, at   
   > least regarding mere words on the screen, nobody has power   
   > over one. One can always give no reply or just laugh one's   
   > teeth out at clumsy attempts to rile one up by mere words on   
   > the screen. Everybody is protected by asynchronicity on   
   > Usenet. If one cannot handle such freedom, one should not   
   > be here.   
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   > Tang Huyen   
      
   years ago I saw a chinese saying that read; " never take   
   anything personally " and my father was in that frame of   
   mind once and when I told him the quote he said; " if you   
   don't take things personally you'd never have anything to   
   worry about." and I said; " yup that's right." it was like a big   
   revelation to him since he had always been a professional   
   worrier about absolutely everything.   
      
   --- SoupGate-Win32 v1.05   
    * Origin: you cannot sedate... all the things you hate (1:229/2)