From: ibshambat@gmail.com   
      
   Much has been said about any number of conflicts that can take place at the   
   family level; but there is one such conflict that I have not seen addressed.   
   That is the conflict between the father and the teacher.   
      
   The father wants the child to be what he regards to be normal. But the teacher   
   sees in the child an extraordinary ability and wants to encourage the child   
   toward greatness. The father sees the teacher as being a threat to his   
   authority over the child. He    
   denigrates the child's accomplishments and says various ugly things. Other   
   kids pitch in by saying such things as that academic knowledge is worthless   
   and that all that matters in life is social skills and common sense, which   
   they say he does not have.   
      
   The child takes the worst from all sides. He becomes both arrogant and   
   tortured. He starts acting like a complete psycho. The father blames the   
   teacher; the teacher blames the father. And when the child becomes an adult   
   others blame him and call him such    
   things as a narcissist or a sociopath, neither of which he is.   
      
   At the larger level, we see the same conflict play out between business world   
   and the academia. We see many people complain that the academics are teaching   
   things that are useless or wrong. They want to defund the academia and replace   
   it with    
   institutions that have their values. On some issues they are right. I see no   
   reason at all why the taxpayer would want to support the institutions of   
   political correctness and Third Wave feminism. However there is and always   
   will be the need for science    
   and education, and for the academia to exist and be adequately funded is   
   crucial for the country.   
      
   What is the right way to solve these kinds of problems? Maybe it is for   
   everyone to know the righful parameters of their role and to wield their power   
   rightfully. The father does have the authority over the child, but he has to   
   wield it rightfully. He    
   cannot be dictating to the child how the child can live, nor can he be   
   mistreating the child. As for the teacher, he has to recognize as well that he   
   is not the child's father and to honor the legitimate parameters of the   
   father's role.   
      
   I have a stepson, and I never attempted to replace his father as a father. I   
   spent a lot of time with him, but I saw my role as mainly educational rather   
   than parental. I taught him quite a lot, but I never took on the authoritative   
   role in his life. I    
   left such things to his mother and his father.   
      
   I am writing this mainly because I have not seen writing about these kinds of   
   conflicts. Maybe attention should be paid to such a thing. Probably the only   
   place where I have seen this addressed is the film Shine about an Australian   
   pianist who was in    
   this kind of a situation. And I think that more needs to be said about this,   
   as it is obviously a source of problems for many people.   
      
   https://sites.google.com/site/ilyashambatthought   
      
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