VATICAN INFORMATION SERVICE
YEAR XXII - # 183
DATE 20-10-2015

Summary:
- Listen to women, say auditors to Synod Fathers
- Audiences

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 Listen to women, say auditors to Synod Fathers
 Vatican City, October 2015 (VIS) - The role of the woman in the family, in
society and in the Church, cultural differences, concerns regarding ethics in
medicine, the situation of persecuted Christian families and the testimonies of
those engaged in family catechesis were main themes of the interventions by
auditors in the Synod Hall during the general congregations of Thursday 15 and
Friday 16 October, published today.
 The national president of the Catholic Women Organisation in Nigeria, Agnes
Offiong Erogunaye, reminded the Synod Fathers that African women are known for
taking care of their families with or without the contributions of their
spouses, and the Boko Haram insurgency in Nigeria indicates the strength and
role of "a typical woman and mother determined to keep her family together in
the face of helplessness and calamity". She added, "From my experience with
women in this difficult moment, I can boldly say that although the man is the
head of the family, the woman is however the heart of the family, and when the
heart stops beating the family dies because the foundation is shaken and the
stability destroyed. In Nigeria, Catholic women are not just homebuilders. They
are a strong force to be reckoned with when it comes to spirituality and
economy, and growth in the Church".
 Sister Maureen Kelleher from the United States of America quoted the paragraph
in the Instrumentum laboris that states, "The Church must instil in families a
sense of 'we' in which no member is forgotten. Everyone ought to be encouraged
to develop their skills and accomplish their personal plan of life in service
of
the Kingdom of God". She called upon the Church, "my family", to "live up to
the
challenge to instil in our family the Church a sense of 'we', to encourage each
person - male or female - to develop their skills to serve the Kingdom of God".
She added, "I ask our Church leaders to recognise how many women who feel
called
to be in service of the Kingdom of God but cannot find a place in our Church.
Gifted though some may be, they cannot bring their talents to the tables of
decision making and pastoral planning. They must go elsewhere to be of service
in building the Kingdom of God. In 1974, at the Synod on Evangelisation, one of
our sisters, Margaret Mary, was one of two nuns appointed from the Union of
Superiors General. Today, forty years later, we are three".
 "The Church needs to listen to women ... as only in reciprocal listening does
true discernment function", emphasised Lucetta Scaraffia, professor of Modern
History at the University of Rome. "Women are great experts in the family:
leaving abstract theories behind, we can turn in particular to women to
understand what must be done, and how we can lay the foundations for a new
family open to respect for all its members, no longer based on the exploitation
on the capacity for sacrifice of the woman, but instead ensuring emotional
nourishment and solidarity for all. Instead, both in the text and in the
contributions very little is said about women, about us. As if mothers,
daughters, grandmothers, wives - the heart of families - were not a part of the
Church, of the Church who encompasses the world, who thinks, who decides. As if
it were possible to continue, even in relation to the family, pretending that
women do not exist. As if it were possible to continue to forget the new
outlook, the previously unheard-of and revolutionary relationship that Jesus
had
with women".
 "Families throughout the world are very diverse, but in all of them the women
play the most important and decisive role in guaranteeing that their solidity
and duration. And when we speak about families, we should not speak always and
only about marriage. There is a growing number of families composed of a single
mother and her children. It is almost always women who stay by their children's
side, even when they are ill, disabled or afflicted by violence. These women
and
mothers have seldom followed courses in theology, and often they are not even
married, but they offer an admirable example of Christian behaviour. If you,
Synod Fathers, do not pay attention to them, if you do not listen to them, you
risk making them feel even more disgraced as their family is so different to
the
one you focus on. Indeed, you talk too readily of an abstract family, a perfect
family that does not exist, a family that has nothing to do with the real
families Jesus encountered or spoke about. Such a perfect family would almost
seem not to be in need of His mercy or His Word: 'I have not come to call the
righteous, but sinners to repentance'".
 The issue of mixed marriages also attracted attention, as mentioned by Rev.
Fr.
Garas Boulos Garas Bishay, pastor of St. Mary of Peace in Sharm El Sheikh,
Egypt, who expressed his concern for a socio-cultural phenomenon widespread in
tourist areas such as that of his parish: "mixed marriages between Christian
girls and women from Russia and Europe, with Muslim boys and men (indeed,
Islamic Shariah only allows Muslim men to marry women of other religions and
never the contrary). Certainly this phenomenon, along with the mass demographic
shift and a growing number of refugees and migrants who tend to settle in
Europe, does not only affect countries with an Islamic majority or tourist
areas, but will inevitably also affect the West and is therefore worthy of
study
and serious consideration. These are families with mixed morals and a dual
cultural and religious affiliation. ... It should not be forgotten that Islamic
law permits polygamy and the Koran obliges the parents to the provide an
Islamic
education for the children. There is a profoundly different cultural and
religious anthropology that may easily give rise to serious crises within the
couple, even leading to irreparable fractures and grave consequences for the
children".
 Maria Harries, Chair of Catholic Social Services in Australia, also spoke
about
cultural diversity, providing the example of the very marginalised Aboriginal
people, which comprise many language groups and family traditions. "For most of
them, the idea of the family as it is represented by our Church teaching is
alien. For some, the matrilineal system means that they have many mothers. The
child is reared in a kinship group, not by a mother and father. Women play a
dynamic role in their kinship world and they expect them to be visible. In the
words of one of the aboriginal leaders, 'By not having women visible on the
Altar and in the life of the Church, we are concealing our mothers, our sisters
and our daughters from view'. In welcoming the Gospel, they ask not to be
recolonised by our Church as they have been by our nation's forebears. The
challenge for our Church is to formally and institutionally incorporate
cross-cultural dialogue and adopt systems with indigenous Australians that
honour and do not violate their culture".
 Harries, who has worked for forty years with people who have experienced
sexual
abuse in the family and for the last twenty with those who have been abused by
members of the clergy, affirmed that "all sexual abuse is connected to the
abuse
of power. ... The horrific evidence of abuse of children in families and
institutions and our failure to respond adequately to this has left the Church
in Australia and of course elsewhere in very deep pain. ... In the words of
Pope
Francis, as we all pray for and 'receive the grace of shame', we need local and
collective ways of meeting all these victims and their families and each other
in our garden of agony and to listen deeply, very deeply. From our failings and
the accompanying pain, we have the opportunity to learn collectively and
perhaps
even doctrinally, and to re-engage with and accompany the thousands of families
whom we have lost".
 Brenda Kim Nayoug spoke of what is referred to in South Korea as the "Sampo
generation", or rather, the generation that chooses to forego courtship,
marriage and childbirth. "Many of the young generation have given up these
three
things because of their social pressures and economic problems. There are so
many young people who are suffering due to unemployment, they unfortunately
postpone their marriage, and forget that marriage is a calling given by God.
Dear Fathers", she exclaimed, "married life is a long journey. There might be
lots of possibilities to get lost or to be wounded on their journey of life,
therefore the Church should open up and truly accompany us at the various
stages
of our married life, so that we do not give up but instead find for ourselves
the beauty of the Christian family".
 A recurrent theme in the interventions was that of married sexuality and
ethics
in medicine. The Peruvian paediatrican Edgar Humberto Tejada Zeballos remarked
that "there are couples who believe that having a child is a right, without
considering that children are a gift from God, and resort to measures that
aside
from violating morality, cost innocent lives, such as in vitro fertilisation,
in
which many embryos are eliminated, burned, frozen or sold. They also consider
practices such as surrogacy and other means that ... denying morality, cause
the
sacrifice of a great number of embryos without mercy or use them in
experiments.
Holy Father, I believe that in the working document, in paragraphs 140 and 141
these threats to life and to the family could be mentioned clearly, to transmit
this knowledge to many Christians who commit these immoral acts out of
ignorance".
 Massimo and Patrizia Paloni, a married couple from Rome and members of the
Neocatechumenal Way, are the parents of twelve children and are currently in
mission in Holland to announce the Gospel to the "existential peripheries of
Europe". They expressed their gratitude to Paul VI for the encyclical Humanae
Vitae, which helped them understand that "responsible parenthood is not about
deciding the number of children, but rather about being aware of the greatness
of the vocation to collaborate with God in the creation of sons and daughters
for eternity", adding that "every day around us we see suffering, separations,
abortions, and lonely people without hope. The world is awaiting the witness of
the Christian family, and we are convinced that the salvation of humanity is
through the Christian family. ... The Christian community saves the family, and
the family saves the Church".
 Sister Berta Maria Porras Fallas of Costa Rica insisted on the need for
formation for "vocational realisation", and proposed three priorities in youth
pastoral ministry. "First, love in discernment, with the themes of formation
for
discernment and discerning the mission. Secondly, loving as a couple, man and
woman, with the analysis of current issues. And finally, loving as sexual
giving, with the theme of human sexuality as a gift, conjugal love and daring
to
love".
 Finally, the Marqus-Odeesho couple, on behalf of families in Iraq, told how
the
Christians of Nineveh have found themselves having to leave their homes, jobs,
memories, possessions and schools overnight. "The new experience was very
harsh", they said. "Only the words of our Lord Jesus in the Gospel of Matthew -
'Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is
the kingdom of heaven' - condole us and relieve our wounds; thus we started to
hear testimonies of some displaced families giving their experience, saying
that
despite the suffering and harshness of displacement, getting closer to the
Church helped them lot and they started to feel that their faith was
strengthening and maturing, and they began sharing in spiritual activities. ...
Today the challenges continue through events such as kidnapping, bombing,
robbery and terror. But in spite of this situation there are still many
families
who are committed to their land and their Church, giving testimony to their
faith without realising that this persecution will bring a lot of good to the
Church of Christ, as it did for the early Church, in spreading the good news".

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 Audiences
 Vatican City, 20 October 2015 (VIS) - Today, the Holy Father received in
separate audiences:
 - Cardinal Baselios Cleemis Thottunkal, major archbishop of Trivandrum of the
Syro-Malabars, India.
 - His Beatitude Ibrahim Isaac Sedrak, Patriarch of Alexandria of the Copts,
Egypt.

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